New player’s second month, OOC bs, Hard work and war

[JoshBright 2104]

Two months and 630 hours in here I am again and unlike last time this post will not be as… positive. I am not one for sugar-coating things as I will be as honest as I can. This month has been a mixed bag. I got a tavern and worked extremely hard on it, ended up spending around 10k mina and 150(170 if you include build time) hours on it, I was happy my hard work was paying off, I was having fun. I was able to do family rp for the first time and I was enjoying running my tavern as well as army rp. Then people started bringing ooc into it. People started being jerks. Bringing ooc into RP. War and drama started on ooc stuff and now I am being targeted by a certain group I will not name(and yes I have been told by some of their members oocly that they are targeting me over vc and ingame ooc). I am now on the verge of losing everything I have worked for. I have been having fits of rage and depression. I am not having a lot of fun rping anymore due to the war. I am starting to think about quitting LOTC altogether. It hurts. It really does hurt. This month has been interesting. Bash me all you wish and say ‘it’s just mineman’, I do not care, it will not change how I view this. It will not change the drama. It will not change the pain I feel.

 i would like to thank the following people for being my friends: @ScarletFrisket, @FredrickTeufel, @PapaCaliente, @Harald, @Duncan the Fearsome, @MapleSunflower and so much more.

  I also want to thank the following people for helping me out tons; @Shmeepicus, @GMRO, @Polysemic, @SoulReapingWolf, @Disheartened, @KaiserJacobII and everyone else who has helped me. I would list out everyone that i have made friends with and who have helped me but if i did this post would be way to long!

Again this month has not been the best and I am really thinking about quitting but you never know what the server holds, I also hope the friends I made here will transcend lotc :)

 

 

on that note i will be taking a few days break

[UnusualBrit 2050]

I think you should take a break if you’re having a hard time on lotc, there’s no point playing if your not getting any fun out of it at the end of the day!

[JoshBright 2104]

5 minutes ago, UnusualBrit said:

I think you should take a break if you’re having a hard time on lotc, there’s no point playing if your not getting any fun out of it at the end of the day!

i think i will, i knew we have had our differences but your a good dude. 

[annabanana1014 1631]

I WILL MISS YOU- KEEP IN TOUCH!! :(

[FredrickTeufel 316]

Gods speed king. I'm still here with you.

[SoulReapingWolf 2258]

It genuinely saddens me to see that your experience has gone from an amazing first month to this. I really hope that if you do decide to come back your experiences will be more akin to those you lived during that first month. 

Please know that if you ever need anything my DMs are open. 

[Harald 2465]

I love you man <3

[tadabug2000 3493]

Take the breather you need, friendo! Eat some icecream, touch some snow, chug a gallon of water. 💖

[excited 10833]

You're a great dude, hit me up if you need anything!

[EmiliainWonderland 1526]

Sorry you feel that way, LOTC is a pretty toxic place but I hope you'll come back and give us a chance to make you playing more worth it. 

 

Don't let the war get you down, because when it's over, you'll have a lot of fun if you ignore all the other ooc drama.

[GMRO 5245]

I really hope you don't quit @JoshBrightas you've been great thus far. I would suggest taking a break though to avoid wearing yourself down. On the plus side, don't give up as you do provide a lot of people with a positive view of what enjoying the server can look like, and just remember that you can rebuild anything.

 

I would encourage in the meantime to hopefully find something within Providence to do so as to stay far out of the way of conflict, but also whoever is in charge of Oren taxation to give you a tax break on the tavern!

[Cjmate 1252]

I like your face.

[Eryane 3629]

To go off of what @GMRO said, please send me a DM and I can help you find something in Providence that will keep you away from the conflict. I know for a new player this can be pretty scary to see a war and a lot of OOC hate (because wars unfortunately always seem to turn out this way and become so toxic) but know that all these communities will be okay at the end of the day. 

 

Taking a break is definitely a smart decision to give yourself some time to breath. These sorts of things can get so stressful and you have to take care of yourself first and foremost. If you need to VC, or anything at all, do not hesitate to reach out whatsoever.

 

Always here for you, you've been an amazing addition to our community and I really do hope you stick around - but choose what is best for you at the end of the day. o7 

[MapleSunflower 1049]

Hi Josh!

I went through something extremely similar back in August, my second month on LOTC as well. Ferrymen were consistently raiding Providence and we were all feeling the same stress and demoralization you feel now. Here’s some tips I’ve learned from my time here on LOTC:

-Take breaks when you need to. Go take that shower, eat a meal, watch a tv show, or play another video game (even if it’s like club penguin or among us lmao!)
-If this means going to another nation to rp with your friends, go ahead! Ask your orenian friends out for a vacation rp in elysium or anywhere you wish. Just be careful on the roads of course. Maybe meet in the spawn and ride on horses together. 

-You are allowed to not rally. If they ask? Just say personal life reasons. If you’re online, you can’t be able to hear oren’s bell from let’s say elysium or lubba’s keep or wherever else you are. So then you may not have to come.

-Allow yourself to ignore birds. You can accept them and throw up away, or right out not answer! 

-If there are rude people on lotc who are oocly targeting you, and you really are bothered by it, get a desktop (NOT MOBILE) ss by doing ctrl & prnt scr (print screen copies the content on the screen and you can paste it into discord message!) Make sure there is the time stamp and is not edited/cut. Then you may send it to a mod and request to open an investigation into harassment/targeting/whatever the mod thinks.
-Value your time where you are. Value your irp and ooc friends. They’re here for you. 

-Be kind to yourself.

 

People will tell you “it’s just a mineman server.” And yes, it is, but they’re always missing the second half- the true point they might be trying to say. It is a minecraft server, but your emotions connected to it are valid. Everyone gets character bleed here and there, everyone feels the pressure. Irp or ooc actions truly affect us - the same way someone a fan of a tv show may cry when their favorite character suffers a major loss or even dies. Lotc is like our little tv show that everyone writes together. You are allowed to feel these emotions, but make sure you rest up from them too. 
 

LOTC is a story we all have made together, It’s ugly and beautiful simultaneously. 
 

So, be kind to yourself and rest.

Enjoy the story, my friend. 

[KaiserJacobII 1048]

Take a break when you need it, and leave if you want to. If you don't leave, and if your current roleplay is burning you out I suggest you look into various different roleplay communities on our server. There are tons of unique experiences to have on this server! Do what you want, and what makes you feel good. My DMs are open if you ever want to talk about anything.