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Etiquette hen court Issued on the 4th, of Dragon’s Flame of the year 11 of AST. SUMMARY/INTRODUCTION The following is a set of guidelines; explanations of the expectations which well cultured citizens of the realm ought to emulate. The court of our Grand Principality is the center of our honor, and is given weight only by the reverence which is shown within its chamber. Therefore to bring honor and grace to the court is to accept these standards upon one’s self; and the rejection of these principles reveals much more than just one’s lack of respect for the Prince and his Peace. Definitions In Court: In the presence of any gathering, or dedicated place of the Prince and Royal Family will be known as ‘The Court’. The prominent examples are the courtroom itself during ceremonies, the capital Palace, and any social gathering at which the Royalty or Nobility is principally involved. Ceremonies: Any organized event of royal/noble significance, lasting from the opening until the closing of the occasion. Hospitality: Active and mutual attention with one’s friends or acquaintances. Includes the exchange of gifts and giving honorable greetings to a friend’s House and kinsmen. Physical Bearings in Court Encouraged Behaviors - Stand with high posture Legs firm and straight when standing, and bent perfectly at the knee when sitting. Men position their legs parallel to each other at the knees, while women cross their legs at the knees. When standing, arms are either held straight at the side or bent directly at the elbow, with the hands either joined in front of the abdomen or behind the spine. - When addressing those around, speak in a whisper It is most appropriate, when speaking to one or a few nearby acquaintances, to carry one’s voice at the lowest tone which one is able to. Primarily, to ensure that conversations do not impede the proceedings of court, and secondly, to emphasize the attention that one must take to fully understand the meaning of one’s speech. - When addressing the court or the Sovereign, speak in a clear, loud voice It is most appropriate, when addressing the attendants of the court, and especially the Royalty of the Realm, that one ensures their message is clearly given to all. It is imperative when in such a position of attention that one upholds the best display of their civility. - (For Nobility) Humbly set the standard Nobility are charged to be the public example of the most distinguished and respectable citizenry. Therefore, they must always be seen carrying themselves in the most honorable forms, and be heard to use the most dedicated and precise language. Such things inspire trust in one’s countrymen and appreciation for virtue in all citizens. To note; it is dishonorable for a noble or group of nobles to compete with each other to out-display each other with increasingly elegant dress, for all should reserve it to the Royalty to adorn themselves in the most distinguished garments and jewels. - (For Royalty) Dedication to Regality Royal persons are expected at all times to acknowledge what they are; the living essence of the Realm. As such, these must comport themselves with only as much honor as they would compel others to render to their crown. To achieve this aim, the royalty is always seen to act, dress, and speak in such ways that inspire reverent awe in their subjects and enforce the interests of the people. - Maintain the order of pets and children Any young children and wards, as well as pets and other dependent entities, are expected to be at the constant attention of their caretaker at all times. Whether this is a parent, relative, or otherwise designated guardian, none of the above listed subjects should be seen out of the control of their overseer. - (For Generals) Comport oneself with Stoic Honor For men of such heavy and hallowed duty, word must be little, and action much. As such, it is not appropriate for the distinguished captains and generals of the realm to be seen consumed by various energetic cares during court, but must at all times be a rock upon which the glory of our realm stands. For this reason Generals are bid to limit conversation for the duration of court and ceremonies, only speaking when called upon to do so, and when called, speaking with the authority and dignity bestowed upon them by the Crown. - (For Soldiers) Display universal respect It is for the sake of every Aeltarosi citizen, merchant, child, and priest which calls this island a common home; that the soldiers of the realm gather for their protection. From these citizens, our fighting force is fed, and to these citizens our soldiers sacrifice their honor and lives. Therefore any man shall be greatly dishonored who takes up a false enmity with a soldier of the realm, and any soldier will call such dishonor upon his own self if he takes up enmity with a subject of his Sovereign. Such is the manifest command of the Prince’s Peace. Discouraged and Dishonorable Behaviors - Consume Food (Drink is Encouraged) Unless a courtly event specifically invokes the gathering and eating of food, courtiers ought not to be seen eating food during ceremonies. As an exception; the offering and consumption of fine, non-overwhelming drink is encouraged between friends and allies; all the better if this is done from elegantly crafted glass vessels. - Attract undue attention during ceremonies To selfishly call the attention of the gathered court to oneself when it is not in due season, is disrespectful to one’s countrymen. The Royalty and courtly staff are especially harmed by such actions of outburst or dramatic display, and it does little honor to one’s House to show a small measure of public decency. Most especially, to be seen and heard running from place to place in constant movement and climbing upon furnishings during court is disruptive and offensive to the Prince’s regality. - Be seen in deficiency in court To be in ill condition at court makes the public eye and the private consciousness skeptical of one’s integrity and diligence. Actions such as being seen loudly in need of food, vocally thirsting for drink, blowing one’s nose, or belching, are outward signs of inward impurity. - Display Public Affection during ceremonies All attention during courtly events ought to be directed as best as possible to the cares of the court and its proceedings. Display of overly affectionate behavior toward one’s courtship undermines the special dignity of the women of the court, and undermines the gallant self control of the men of the court. As the only exception; married units of man and wife are encouraged to hold hands as a show of the eternal and manifested bond of one soul to another. Resolving mistakes in Etiquette If a noble is seen performing or not performing an act which would bring indignity to themselves or the name of their house, it is the responsibility of the fellow peers to ensure the common accordance to the culture of excellence. To resolve any issues of this sort; first inform the lady of the house (or most prominent daughter) of the details of the improper deed. She will take the knowledge to the peer, who will set the arrangement of his space to hold more firmly to the etiquette of the prince's peace. It is critical that this is only done with the utmost respect as to not cause offense. Misunderstandings arisen from uncareful speech is a thousand measures more harmful than any violation of proper etiquette. (Verbal) Addresses For Royalty ○ For Sovereign Prince - ”Your Highness” - ”Lord Sovereign” - “Prince [Royal Name]” ○ For Princess-Consort - ”Your Highness” - ”Lady Sovereign” - ”Princess [Royal Name]” ○ For Designated Heir - ”Your Excellency” - ”Lord/Lady Excellency” ○ For all other Royal House Members - ”Your Reverence” - ”Lord/Lady Reverence” For Nobility (Comital & Ducal) ○ For Title Holder/Consort - “High Lord/Lady [Title]” - “Your Grace” - “Lord/Lady Grace” ○ For Non-Title House Members - “Lord/Lady [First Name]” - “Lord/Lady [House Name]” For Nobility (Baronial & Viscomital) ○ For Title Holder/Consort - “Honorable Lord/Lady [Title]” - “Lord/Lady [Title]” ○ For Non-Title House Members - “Lord/Lady [First Name]” - “Lord/Lady [House Name]“ (Written) Addresses For Royalty ○ For Sovereign Prince - “To our Sovereign Prince, [Royal Name], Prince of Aeltarys” ○ For Princess-Consort - ”To our Beloved Princess, [Royal Name], Princess of Aeltarys” ○ For Designated Heir - ”To our Excellency, [Royal Name], Heir to Aeltarys” - ”To our Excellent Reverence, [Royal Name], Heir to Aeltarys” ○ For all other Royal House Members - ”To our Reverence, [Royal Name] of House Valraenos” For Nobility (Comital & Ducal) ○ For Title Holder/Consort - “To His/Her Grace, [First Name] of [House Name], [Primary Title]” ○ For Non-Title House Members - “To High Lord, [First Name] [Second Name ], of [House Name]” For Nobility (Baronial & Viscomital) ○ For Title Holder/Consort - “To The Honorable [First Name] of [House Name], [Primary Title]” ○ For Non-Title House Members - “To Lord [First Name] [Second Name] of [House Name]” Feasting Arrangements During feasts, the Family of honor (usually the host, unless otherwise specified) will be seated at the most prominent seat of the table. To the right sits the consort, to the left are placed all of the heirs, with proximity to the center indicating the order of their succession. Such an array should be achieved whenever possible when gathered at courtly events. It is customary, even at the smallest of tables, to leave the first left seat empty if the heir is not available, or if the House has no declared heir. When hosting dignitaries and peers, it is expected of the organizing lord to assign spaces for every titled noble who is most expected to attend. Note *When addressing nobility and royalty of the realm, it shows a respectable level of learning and virtue to properly attribute titles to Houses. Even more important is distinguishing titled nobility from the families of titled nobility. Simply; when addressing a noble of title, use the name of their title, preceded by ‘Lord/Lady’ or ‘High Lord/Lady’. When addressing non-titled nobility, use the name of their House or their First Name, preceded by ‘Lord/Lady’ Essential Principles Common Honor: At all times, one should act, dress, and speak in such ways that displays the honor of their family, and the good learning of one's life. The living sovereign and the immortal realm are both most highly honored when their citizens act with constant grace and balanced measure. Enduring Hospitality: One must always give the most hospitality to the common citizenry which are the lifeblood of all civilization. It is the love of the common people which gives legitimacy to the sovereign crown and the dignity of the nobility. Nothing does a man or woman more honor than to be seen selflessly giving of oneself in service to virtuous deeds. Likewise, nothing brings so much dishonor than to be more loving of wealth and high dignity than the interest of all Aeltarosi. Resources & Their Use (OOC:) Houses of The Realm: [Link] Use this to associate oneself with the names and ranks of the various nobility of the realm. As such things are subject to change from one generation to another. Aeltarys Public Forum: [Link] Use this to be informed of news and discourses of the court Overall Court Summary: [Link] Use this to acquaint yourself and other courtiers with the ongoing description and operations of the Royal Court of Aeltarys. Otherwise known as the Orbar Court. Zālagon Jehikagrī, HIS ROYAL HIGHNESS, Maegor I Valraenos, Grand Prince of the Aeltarosi, Prince of Dragonclaw HER ROYAL HIGHNESS, Arabella Valraenos of Pavia, Grand Princess of the Aeltarosi, Princess of Dragonclaw (Authored By) Casstrucio Dandalo

On Letter Writing, Intentions, and Layout UKEN VE KRAWN I ROZZ Issued by the OFFICE OF VE ESROVA KORT On the 7th day of Vzmey ag Hyff of 481 E.S. VA BIRODEO HERZENAV AG EDLERVIK, Upon assigning tasks based around letter writing to the wards of the Morrivi Court, it has been brought to our attention that there appears to be some confusion surrounding the layout of a letter and how best to write one, depending on the intentions had. Below the previous work of Queen Isabel and her Court is credited, particularly the section on letter writing, which is greatly expanded upon for further education of our courts and Kingdom. ON PREVIOUS WRITINGS As referenced in Etiquette Reforms in the Royal Court of Hanseti-Ruska, Section II; Letters, published in 353 E.S. during the reign of Queen Isabel: “The art of composing a letter to anyone is a learned talent. Letters and calling cards are expected as a way of gratitude after a family has graciously hosted an event or dinner. Letters are also a way of solidifying courtship. Those particular notes should be crafted mindfully with tone and word choice in mind. Handwriting should be clear, not too large and bold yet possessing some kind of character or style.” These written words still hold true to this day, and we encourage you to read the full section within those reforms from some time ago. Our reason, though, for writing further on this now is not to change what was written but only to expand upon it further; allowing an increased understanding as to the art that is letter writing. THE LAYOUT OF A LETTER The layout of a letter finds its basis in whether it is a formal or informal letter, alongside that of the topic you wish to touch on. SALUTATIONS In any letter, the first part seen is the salutations, of which may contain the names of both parties. Whether you would see the recipient or the sender's name and titles first is dependent upon the status of the recipient and the sender alike, Below is an example, of a Count sending a letter to a Baroness: “The Right Honorable, Count of Oblong, Knight of the Realm and Defender of Haense and its vassals gives his greetings to Her Ladyship, Baroness of the Righthood, Ambassador to Petra -” This, above, is an example of a formal letter - One where the sender is of higher ranking then the recipient and the sender has not spoken to or sent a letter to the recipient previously. If the Count in question instead wished to flatter the Baroness, even if he had not met her previously, it would be written in a way such as this, allowing for a petition based subject instead: “To the inspiring Baroness of the Righthood, Her Ladyship, justful Ambassador to the Petra from the Right Honorable, Count of Oblong, Knight of the Realm and Defender of Haense and its vassals, greetings-” The difference in this introduction is that, compared to the first, it speaks of the perceived virtues of the recipient, despite their lower status - and by listing them first, offers flattery. This is why more often than not, you would see something petitioned afterwards, as a compliment is offered before the request. There are a total of four introductions, the formal neutral, which was listed in the first example above. This lists the higher statused sender first, with no form of flattery within the letter. The second type is formal good, this being where you go for flattery, in which the lower statused recipient is listed first. Each of these can have subsections to it, which can change the letter and its intentions with but a few changes of layout. Formal neutral, though, stays just as that with no subsections as it what one would call truly formal. Under formal good, though, there are a few choices. You may choose in such phases of politeness to list the higher statused individual first, which in this example is you, the Count - With virtuous words used towards the recipient as a form of a flattery meant not to come on too strong, when the recipient is listed second. Another choice is to do as in the example; listing the lower statused recipient first with virtuous words or you may choose not to use virtuous words at all. Each of these three subsections are a form of flattery, often used before making a request, or that of a petition. The other two levels of politeness for introductions that have not been listed yet are on informal letters. In this instance, our example changes, though this time the Count and the Baroness are old friends, those who have spoken and written previously and have known each other for quite some time. Some examples may be given below for reference: “My dear Lady Anabel, -” Or “My Lady, -” Shorter, sweeter and friendlier are these examples above. Should they be used on someone you are not close with, however, it may constitute a great offense. The first example will be kept to the theme of naming and be dubbed as informal good. This in particular boasts several details of note in this short but sweet sentence. It uses the Baroness’s first name, Anabel, and refers to her informally as ‘Lady’ versus that of ‘Baroness’. Additionally, the word ‘dear’ is used beforehand, denoting a close friendship and a care for the recipient. In opposition, is simply ‘My Lady’, which shall be under the informal neutral manner. The sender and recipient are friendly enough to warrant using informal letters, but are not close enough to exchange words as is used in the other example above. The Count refers to her as ‘Lady’, an informal term versus that of ‘Baroness’, with some denotion to their friendship as he also uses the word ‘My’. ON WELL-BEING This next part of the letter is not as interchangeable as the section soon to be touched on; petition, may be, as this section is generally expected to keep up any friendship (in the case of an informal letter) or to keep the recipient in a good mood (in the case of a formal letter). This section of the letter oftentimes sees the sender wishing the recipient good health, prosperous fortune or otherwise. What should be included in this section is more often than not up to the sender, but it should have basis in the intention of the letter. Should this be a formal letter, you’d find the example below fitting: “I have heard news of your recent pursuits in your Ambassadorial duties within Petra and commend them highly. The news on the recently made Pact of the Petrine Crow has spread far and wide, leaving the people in great cheer, which I pray you are much the same. Upon reading your work, I can only hope to hear more in the future.” This, as you can see above, is formal while still offering an amount of flattery to put the recipient into higher spirits. Naturally, of course, for letters more of a discourse type nature - This example can be written differently, in which you are not aiming to put them in any sort of mood, or are even wishing to set them into something more foul. More often than not, though, you shall find yourself checking on their well-being. In another example, you would use this when requesting something from someone; in which a petition is followed afterwards. In this instance, more often than not, you would expect to see someone quoting a proverb about how noble or generous they are, being followed by requesting something: “Your noble pursuits have shown to give freely and yet gain even more - for a generous person such as yourself prospers, refreshing others and thus being refreshed. Such generosity has been noticed in the recent Pact of the Petrine Crow which has spread far and wide, rejuvenating to the people's ears and offering hope for the future.” The example above is formal, yet uses flattery, proverbs and speaks of their noble pursuits, their generosity and just how refreshing it is. When reading this, anyone can tell it is leading up to a request, a petition within the letter written. With that of informal letters, it is a different story in which you may more simply check on their well-being, without as much use of proverbs, flowery language or otherwise, an example of such below: “I hope I write to you of well-mind and health, and that of your family. I’d heard of the pact made with Petra and am happy to see you prospering under your new position!” It can be longer, shorter or otherwise but the example gets the point across. It checks in on her health and even that of her family’s, and comments on how she must be prospering as he mentions having heard of the Pact made - a sign of a job well done. ON NARRATION This next part is where the actual purpose of the letter is expounded upon, in which the sender may speak of their family, difficulties they had at home, relay certain information or otherwise. Below is an example of formal good narration in letter writing: “It is that of the aforementioned future that troubles me so. The yield of the crops this year has been low and famine high, in which your noble pursuits of the Pact of the Petrine Crow may offer the people much needed respite. How they suffer so, seeking the generosity of a noble individual such as yourself, to allow their bellies to be full and hearts warm.” With a narration such as this, it would likely be followed by a petition which will be touched on in a later section. The narration in question touches on several things: that trouble has been had in the lands of which the Count writes from, and that the trouble is based around food - by mention of the Pact, one can gather that there was likely some mention of trade in the pact that would benefit the people in question. Following this, though, is another example in which you would find an informal narration: “I wish things were just as prosperous back home but alas; the food stock has been dwindling due to famine, and I find myself scouring the markets for but a crumb -” This is kept relatively informal, and with how it is written, it would be followed by a petition. ON PETITIONS This part of the letter may be omitted entirely if your letter does not include a request, it can also include pleas, admonishments or otherwise, depending on the intent of the letter in question. In order to keep with the examples given above, we’ll continue in the base of a Count writing a letter to a Baroness. Below is an an example, keeping to the formal good style we have been discussing: “I beg of you in this instance to send even a portion of what was gained in the trade deal made within the Pact of the Petrine Crow so that the people may be renewed, and filled with food to their heart's content - for this famine may continue for some time, and only your generous nature shall stave off further ruin.” The example above is a request, in keeping with the flattery and intentions of the letter being written - It plays on the recipient's good nature, speaks of the trouble of others, and is worded in a way so as to sweet-talk them into receiving the petition in question. Intentions, though, can make or break a letter. Even with the flattery used previously, this part can be changed to be of a threatening nature, as exemplified below: “And yet, it is with that same nobility and that same reputation that has preceded you with the making of the Pact of the Petrine Crow - one that would not be had without the aid of myself. Pay heed to what I demand, munitions as agreed upon within the Pact are to be sent henceforth to the people here.” The example above has altered the tone and intentions of the letter entirely, however keeping still with the formal good manner of writing letters - while putting forth a threat to the Baroness from the Count. ON CONCLUSIONS Considered primarily as the last part of the letter, which is true and yet not at the same time, this section collates the letter’s message, states goodbyes, expresses well-wishes, or if one is maintaining a threatening tone, states the consequences of ignoring your petition. Keeping to the previous examples of a formal good letter, this is an example of a conclusion that may be had: “There is no more to you at this time, for I hope this letter finds you well and that we may speak further in due time. I imagine, though, that I will hear word of your generous actions long before I receive such a letter back. I pray for you at this time, for your good health, and for your continued success, offering GODspeed and GODbless as I bid you my farewell.” This brings us nearly to the end of the written letter, in which further well-wishes are expressed - prayers and flattery alike; all of which keep to the tone and intentions of the letter that is to be sent. Subsequently, following conclusions are that of signatures and a date, so as to show that the letter is authentic. A date or location need not always be separate if it is included in the conclusion of the letter itself. The date of which this is written is more often than not at the top of the letter itself, the signature at the bottom alongside a notation as to where the letter was written, so a response might be penned in turn. To further ensure authenticity, as one wishes to prevent the potential of letter forgery, the letter upon its conclusion shall be folded and stamped with wax, before the personal or familial seal of the sender - based on the intent of the letter - is imprinted into the wax. The wax seal is of great importance, as it is a way of showing identity and proving just who has sent the letter; signed signature or not. LETTER EXAMPLES An example of a formal good letter written by Queen Sofia, based upon the example detailed previously, a Count contacting a Baroness is written below. Petitioning is used, alongside flattery in this example: “To the inspiring Baroness of the Righthood, Her Ladyship, justful Ambassador to the Petra from the Right Honorable, Count of Oblong, Knight of the Realm and Defender of Haense and its vassals, greetings. Your noble pursuits have shown to give freely and yet gain even more - for a generous person such as yourself prospers, refreshing others and thus being refreshed. Such generosity has been noticed in the recent Pact of the Petrine Crow which has spread far and wide, rejuvenating to the people's ears and offering hope for the future. It is that of the aforementioned future that troubles me so. The yield of the crops this year has been low and famine high, in which your noble pursuits of the Pact of the Petrine Crow may offer the people much needed respite. How they suffer so, seeking the generosity of a noble individual such as yourself, to allow their bellies to be full and hearts warm. I beg of you in this instance to send even a portion of what was gained in the trade deal made within the Pact of the Petrine Crow so that the people may be renewed, and filled with food to their heart's content - for this famine may continue for some time, and only your generous nature shall stave off further ruin. There is no more to you at this time, for I hope this letter finds you well and that we may speak further in due time. I imagine, though, that I will hear word of your generous actions long before I receive such a letter back. I pray for you at this time, for your good health, and for your continued success, offering GODspeed and GODbless as I bid you my farewell.” An example of a informal neutral letter by Lady Karyna: “To My Lady, Karina Ludovar I do hope this letter finds you in good health. It has been some time since we have spoken and I wished to reach out as a means of catching up in these dire times. I hope that all is well within the Family of Ludovar. Perhaps at some point, should you be available, we could meet for tea or hot cocoa. GOD knows we need to keep friends near when times are tough. I look forward to your response, may GOD bless you and your family, farewell.” IV JOVEO MAAN Her Royal Majesty, Sofia of Hyspia, Queen-Consort of Hanseti and Ruska, Princess of Hyspia, Princess-Consort of Bihar, Dules, Lahy, Muldav, Slesvik, Solvesborg, and Ulgaard, Duchess-Consort of Carnatia, and Vanaheim, Margravine-Consort of Korstadt, Rothswald and Vasiland, Countess-Consort of Alban, Alimar, Baranya, Graiswald, Karikhov, Karovia, Kaunas, Kavat, Kovachgrad, Kvasz, Markev, Nenzing, Siegrad, Torun, Toruv, Valdev, and Werdenburg, Viscountess-Consort of Varna, Baroness-Consort of Astfield, Buck, Esenstadt, Kraken’s Watch, Kralta, Krepost, Lorentz, Rytsburg, and Thurant. Her Ladyship, Anabel Elia Colborn, Keeper of the Book of House Colborn, Royal Scribe Her Ladyship, Karyna Rezalin Colborn, Ward to Queen Sofia

ETIQUETTE REFORMS IN THE ROYAL COURT OF HANSETI-RUSKA As penned by HER EXCELLENCY, the Lady Chamberlain Rosalind Elizaveta Amador de Astrea and confirmed by HER MAJESTY, Queen Isabel Franziska Barbanov, 353 ES Table of Contents I. Salutations II. Letters III. Dining IV. Behaviour in Court V. Balls, Masquerades & Parties VI. Marriage & Courtship VII. Hauchmetvas VIII. Conclusion ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ I. ETIQUETTE OF SALUTATIONS Salutations are, of all forms of social life, the most constantly in use and therefore one of the highest tests in breeding. Some greetings are as follows: -A nod or dip of a chin may suffice for nobility -A bow will be interchanged when the nature of the relationship is a cordial one. -Hands will be shaken in any situation by both sexes. -A greeting of a kiss is incompatible in public settings. -Regardless of nobility standing, a curtsey or bow must always be presented when in the presence of the direct royal family. It is recommended, not required, to curtsey or bow to other royalty of the kingdom outside of the direct line. Noblemen and women should present themselves with an honest and strong air and aura, though avoid ill will in their tone when first addressing one another. It is disagreeable and disrespectful to address a royal by their forename unless allowed such in a private setting, or any other monikers or ‘nicknames’. To quote directly from the work of HRM Queen Maya of Muldav and HRH Princess Sofiya Theodosiya Barbanov– The King / Koeng In Oration: “His Royal Majesty” In Address: “Your Royal Majesty” or informally “Your Majesty” Alternately, “My liege” or “Sire” may be preferred by courtiers after an initial greeting. The Queen / Koenas In Oration: “Her Royal Majesty” In Address: “Your Royal Majesty” or informally “Your Majesty” Alternately, “My Queen,” may be preferred by courtiers after an initial greeting. Grand Prince / Hauchprinzen ; Grand Princess / Hauchprinzenas ; Princess Royal (Duchess of Karosgrad) In Oration: “His/Her Serene Highness” In second person: “Your Serene Highness” or informally “Your Serenity.” Alternately, “My Lord / My Lady” may be preferred by courtiers after an initial greeting. Prince / Prinzen ; Princess / Prinzenas In Oration: “His/Her Royal Highness” In Address: “Your Royal Highness” or informally “Your Highness.” Alternately, “My Lord / My Lady” may be preferred by courtiers after an initial greeting. Duke / Herzen ; Duchess / Herzenas In Oration: “His/Her Grace” In Address: “Your Grace.” Alternately, “My Lord / My Lady” may be preferred by courtiers after an initial greeting. Margrave / Margravir ; Margravir / Margraviras In Oration: “The Most Honorable” In Address: “My Lady / My Lord.” Alternately, “Madam or Sir” may be preferred by courtiers after an initial greeting. Count / Komit ; Countess / Komitas In Oration: “The Right Honorable” In Address: “My Lady / My Lord.” Alternately, “Madam or Sir” may be preferred by courtiers after an initial greeting. Viscount / Vikomit ; Viscountess / Vikomitas In Oration: “The Right Honorable” In Address: “My Lady / My Lord.” Alternately, “Madam or Sir” may be preferred by courtiers after an initial greeting. Baron / Bossir ; Baroness / Bossiras In Oration: “The Right Honorable” In Address: “My Lady / My Lord.” Alternately, “Madam or Sir” may be preferred by courtiers after an initial greeting. Knight / Dame; Kossin / Kossaras In Oration: “The Honorable” In Address: “Ser [NAME]” or “Dame [NAME]” Addressing Government Officials: The Lord Palatine / Palatin Herzen ; Lady Palatine / Palatin Herzenas and any other members of the Aulic Council: In Oration: “His/Her Excellency” In Address: “Your Excellency” The High Steward / Stewards In Oration: “The Right Honorable” In Address: “High Seneschal” The Royal Chamberlain / Kambelan Herzenas In Oration: “The Right Honorable” In Address: “Lord/Lady Chamberlain” The Grand Lady / Haucherzenas In Oration: “Her Ladyship” In Address: “Your Ladyship” Secretary of the Queen In Oration: “His/Her Lordship/Ladyship” In Address: “Your Lordship/Ladyship” Knight Paramount / Dame Paramount; Kossin Wazoberiz / Kossaras Wazoberiz In Oration: “The Right Honorable” In Address: “Lord/Lady Paramount” or “Ser [NAME] / “Dame [NAME]” To note; the sons and daughters lacking of title but of noble birth may be styled as “The Honorable, Lord [NAME] / Lady [NAME]” and furthermore addressed as “Lord [NAME] / Lady [NAME]”. II. LETTERS The art of composing a letter to anyone is a learned talent. Letters and calling cards are expected as a way of gratitude after a family has graciously hosted an event or dinner. Letters are also a way of solidifying courtship. Those particular notes should be crafted mindfully with tone and word choice in mind. Handwriting should be clear, not too large and bold yet possessing some kind of character or style. Formal salutations begin the letter - [See I. SALUTATIONS] or perhaps for a more affectionate affect are as follows; My Dear Sir, My Lady. When writing to friends the tone can afford to be colloquial, the style irregular - portraying a true picture of that who is writing it. If familiar, letters to friends and family could begin with sentiments like “Dear [name]”. The letter can end with phrases such as: yours faithfully, sincerely, your obedient servant. It is important to select both an ending and a salutation to match how you wish to be perceived (humble, affectionate and so forth), the tone of the letter and to whom it is written to. It is worth noting that although one doesn’t need to open the letter with their full titles, you should observe this on the envelope and at the end of the letter. Signing with one’s full name, including any ranks, decorations or honours applicable. This also avoids the unfortunate situation of the recipient not recognising the name. Letters should be sealed with a wax stamp - the sigil of the sender’s house. An example of how a letter is constructed Your Highness, [an informal address to the Prinzenas. “Your Royal Highness” would be appropriate if the sender wasn’t familiar with the Prinzenas prior to penning the letter] The content of the letter follows, speaking fairly formally unless on close terms with the recipient. Yours faithfully, Lady Rosalind Amador de Astrea, Chamberlain of Hanseti-Ruska. III. ETIQUETTE OF DINING Punctuality at a scene of festivity is imperative. Upon arrival you must be almost blind and deaf to everybody until you reach the hostess. After paying your respects to the lady one may condescend to look about for the purpose of recognising friends. Dinner shall then be announced and the hosts will lead the party into the dining room. If the dining table should be laid out as head and foot the lady of the house shall take the head of the table, the foot the host. On each of their rights shall sit the most important male guests and on their left, the most valued female guests. If you haven’t been approached prior to dinner’s announcement with a request for sitting there, don't be so callous as to sit in those places. If there is a head table apart from the longer one, seating plans do not matter. If seated at a table with the King or Queen-Consort directly at it, one must ask for their dismissal before leaving. Such is not required in the presence of peerage and their consorts, but is respected that all do so nonetheless in formality. If at an official event, informal dinner, or feast– dismissal is not required and only can leave at their own leisure. Hands must be folded in one’s lap, elbows off the table. An upright posture is also essential; leaning back, lounging or slouching are seen as symptoms of a disinterested comportment and therefore constitute great insults. Men and women both dine without gloves. It goes without being said that fighting, crude language and unprompted wild behaviour that is impolite will not be tolerated - both at the table and outside. Being a member of the Court of Hanseti-Ruska means upholding standards of being respectable, well-mannered and polite. Having once seated yourself, spread the napkin on your knees. The instant you receive your plate of soup commence your dinner; for the practice of waiting till everybody else is helped is an eminent proof of under breeding. Be certain to sign the Lorraine Cross over yourself before eating and consciously say a prayer of thanks to God, should there be no prayer done by the host or a clergyman. Should a toast be proposed, simply raise your glass towards the person doing such. If others clink glasses together, be mindful of the fine crystal or material of the glasses so as to not make an overtly loud clatter and to not break it. If you dislike any dish you need only make an appearance of eating and a servant will soon relieve you of your plate. It should be noted that the fork is held in the left hand, the knife in the right. When finished, bring your utensils parallel to one another. Whilst dining, you must not also portray any behaviour of the following: burping, sharing or throwing food, slurping, or coughing without doing so into your handkerchief. An inattentive hostess will frequently prolong the sitting and increase the whole quantity of wine drunk by the men if she does not give the signal for the ladies retiring the instant they have ceased to drink wine or partake in the dessert. At the signal from the hostess the ladies rise and retire to the drawing room. Once the ladies have departed the male guests can close up for the purpose of drinking more wine. After having dined at a private house a brief morning call is expected in the days afterward where the guest will leave a calling card or, should they run into the host’s family, make polite conversation- mentioning their gratitude. IV. BEHAVIOUR IN COURT When court is in session, voices must be kept to a murmur so as to not disrupt the proceedings. Laughter and giggling shouldn’t be excessive. Members of the royal family should be addressed by their title during official events and public appearances. [See I. SALUTATIONS] Clothing within court should be more formal than everyday wear, retaining modesty. Headwear and bonnets should be taken off once inside out of respect for the royal family. Place them atop one’s lap or hold them courteously to the side. It should be added that tiaras, circlets and crowns are to be worn by royalty only or those of princely status. To note, fashion regarding furs is of most agreeable nature, as is any dress akin to that of the Queen or Princesses. Furthermore, sashes are only to be worn by members of the royal family, as well as peers and their consorts. Gossiping and snide comments are discouraged from court and can be a serious offence if the talk is regarding a member of the royal family or a noble of higher status than oneself. Behaviour and good habits involve not fidgeting and fussing, an essential upright posture and a demeanour of respectability and calmness. V. BALLS, MASQUERADES & PARTIES One should always, upon arrival, greet and thank the hostess of said party before making the rounds of the room, greeting and being introduced to different circles. At such occasions one must try to present an easy and natural manner as to not seem awkward in public. Balls and parties are fabulous events to practise dancing, polish conversation skills and meet new people and so attendance must be encouraged. Every well-bred attendee should be fairly well-acquainted with the steps to waltzes and the boulanger (a classic line dance). When dancing, it is good etiquette to pay attention to your partner - not to let your eyes drift across the room. I quote from an etiquette manuscript regarding choosing partners: “A gentleman of genuine politeness will not give all his time and attention to the belles of the evening, but will at least devote some thought to the wall-flowers who sit on the sidelines or perhaps might be unattended.” At a hauchmetvas or ball of honour it is customary that the guest of honour should begin the first dance with their partner of choice. [See VI. HAUCHMETVAS] (An additional note: if you should refuse a dance with someone do it gently and kindly, making an excuse of fatigue or dizziness. However, it shows bad character if you decline one dance and almost immediately get up to waltz with another partner.) For larger, formal occasions dresses are required to be well-made and of fine material. Jewellery and detailed design can add to a garment nicely. For the less formal feasts or family affairs, simpler colours and designs are appropriate. In court, dresses are expected to be finely-made. Ornaments and flowers can be added to hair, subtle yet indicating attention to the smallest detail. In winter, thick furred dress coats are encouraged over the top of usual dresses and clothes. Darker gloves are traditional. One might choose to wear more practical footwear for the harsher terrain. In the summer, thinner material is encouraged to avoid overheating. Pinafore haeseni and ruskan ‘sanguss’ or ‘sanbej’ dresses are a typical Hanseni everyday style, but are discouraged for formal occasions and court. Bright colours, patterns and layering to clothes are encouraged in all climates. [a guide to further information regarding fashion will be released soon] Again we reiterate, after such an event drop a letter or a personal visit to thank the hostess. This action is necessary for private or noble parties. From royal invitations, mentioning your gratitude in court small talk will suffice. VI. MARRIAGE & COURTSHIP Courtship can be defined as a period during which a couple develops a romantic (or mutually beneficial) relationship, especially with the view to marriage. One’s parents might decide upon a potential match for their child and encourage the union. This practice protects the question of the child’s chastity and partly can serve as a matter of furthering family interests, which, in some situations, may be considered more important than individual romantic preferences. It is highly recommended for those of noble birth to find a suitable match befitting their rank or above, most commonly and preferably done through arrangement. For both man and woman, respectability is key in society to be considered a good match. All should strive to meet this standard of upholding society’s values. For the woman’s part some respected attributes are that of clear-headedness, sweetness, confidence, modesty and being free from envy and vanity. For her male counterpart: reliability, sobriety, strength and reasoning are all valued assets. Functions and events serve as opportunities for youths to be introduced to one another by a mutual or familial acquaintance. Such occasions might be more formal dances and balls [See IV. BALLS, MASQUERADES AND PARTIES] as well as shoots, hunts, calling on neighbours and fêtes. Once introduced to a woman of interest, it is expected that the man sends the initial letter or begins a conversation. Correspondence through letters and arranged meetings are a good way to make intentions clear. Activities including riding, going on walks, having tea or drinks or finding a place to sit down are some good ideas to spend time together. Being alone in one another’s houses without a chaperone is discouraged before engagement. The groom must ask formal permission from the patriarch/matriarch of the bride’s family before going ahead. Arrangements will be discussed, including logistics, requests and bridal prices. The courting process of yore has been irredeemably forgotten in effect of generations of cultural drift, left to wallow in a fraction of its former standing. With the re-establishment of old etiquette, it has been recommended that traditional methods of courtship should be received. Bridewealth is the money, livestock or gifts paid by the groom or his family to their future in-laws, before or in the beginning of their marriage. It serves as a gesture of commitment to the relationship as well as recognising the value of the woman he intends to marry. Once the engagement is announced there should be a fairly short period between said declaration and the marriage ceremony. Sincere affections can be killed by the restraints of an arduous engagement - or a long engagement might be deemed unnecessary when matrimony has already been arranged. On the morn of the wedding, the bride should dress with her female companions and family members, arriving at the Basilica to be walked down the aisle. Once the ceremony is over and the pair are wed under the watchful eye of GOD it is the couple’s choice to hold a reception - however large. It could be an intimate family affair or a larger feast. Once married both sides must uphold their vows: never tolerating the advances of someone outside of the marriage; remaining faithful to one another. VII. HAUCHMETVAS A ball for the daughters or sisters of the sovereign monarch upon their coming of age. Translated into the common tongue as a ‘debutante.’ Traditionally held on the eve of the princess’ 14th nameday, it is an acknowledgement that she is ready to begin courting and leaving behind some of her youthful days. The Lady’s Hauchmetvas is also recommended (although not required) for the daughters and sisters of Dukes or Duchesses. During a Lady’s Hauchmetvas, decorations must be of the princess’s favored colors. Furthermore, favourite cuisines and beverages are to be served as well during the event. The first dance of the night must be started by the princess with whomever her partner may be. The night prior to the event, a custom known as Burning of Age occurs - whereby the princess takes three symbols of her childhood and burns them in a great pyre. The private event is open only to the princess’ family and perhaps a close friend she wishes to be there. Before each item is tossed into the flames, she explains the memories and meaning behind each one. VIII. CONCLUSION This edition of the handbook should be your closest friend and comfort regarding expected behaviour. Therefore, it should be treated with the utmost respect. Those who fail to follow elements of mannerisms and behaviour face ostracisation and disgrace. Once these guidelines are utilised in everyday life they become much simpler and easier to remember. With these reforms it allows us to look back to older more traditional Hanseti-Ruska values which have been brushed aside. Any questions or recommendations for further in-depth guides on navigating social situations or etiquette that hasn’t been included in this handbook; send a letter to Rosalind Amador de Astrea. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Signed, Her Royal Majesty, Isabel Franziska Barbanov, Queen-Consort of Hanseti-Ruska Her Excellency, Rosalind Elizaveta Amador de Astrea, Lady Chamberlain of the Royal Courts of Hanseti-Ruska Her Excellency, Irena Ceciliya Ruthern, Lady Speaker of the Royal Duma