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Courtship prior to marriage is ment to be something you remember. The structure of courtship in LOTC varies from house to house, person to person and so on. The creation and end of a courtship also varies from house to house, person to person and so on. I believe we should have a set guide on the run of courtships, and not mouth to mouth word travel of how things should be done as that can clear things up not only for new players but also players whom seem to not be aware of how courtships are done.
From what I understood when I first got into the whole courtship situation, was that only father's had to approve. Something that turned out to not be the case. I turned a corner when I lost my courtship, as I had no idea even in the slightest that a mother figure had rights to approve and deny just as much as a father figure. You may say, 'well that's no excuse; you still lost it' and you're very much right. I held my main priority on being accepted by said person's father, as I thought that was the only thing that mattered in the long run. I've never been good at titles, addressing, knowing where to stand and what to say and alike. I truly think for someone to be taught, especially if they began playing a character at an age for a suitable courtship, how a courtship works is a huge necessity for a courtship to work.
Surely, not everyone would seek to find an issue in the current system of courting, but for those who do, let these be words one shall remember. Never take anyone for granted, especially not if they bear your courtier's last name.
This is where I'd normally slide a **She'd scoff.
I don't normally debate topics, nor ask for anything to be added as I'm more of the "Oh, a poll I wish for to be voted on," then await for someone else to act. The only issue I'm having about this is I can't justify to wait around, as it shouldn't be that hard to have a simple guide explaining how courtship works, with rules such as Royals not being able to marry a Commoner and alike. However it has to be rules everyone agrees upon, regardless of character(s) they play.
Understanding how courtship works is probably the most confusing thing about LOTC as of current, and although there are many people whom seem to be naturals at this. Below you'll see a few different people answering this question: If you were to explain how courtship works, regardless of gender between characters, how would you describe it to a new player?
What I'm trying to get at with this post, as a summary and as an explanation if something seems unclear, is we need a proper guide from area to area in LOTC explaining these points: Basic rules, addressing their parents, and other family members, depending on ranks/titles and greeting them.
The structure of how a courtship actually begins, goes on, how it's done and how it's ended - moved to engagement / marriage.
Courtship 101, covering what courtship means, what it is for, why we have it, who can court who and what the structure of courtship normally is and exceptions that can be made to circumstances.
Even then there is much more to be covered, I as a returning old but yet new player find all of this super confusing and when over 25 people all give different answers I don't know what to believe.
That's all, thank you.