As mercury mentioned, the Elves are different. Most Mali'ame are relatively peaceful and that is what I expect of their race. The Mali'ame for me have always been nature loving, life preserving Elves that fight only for their lives or their friends/family. The Mali'ker are another story entirely most of the time. If you have not noticed, the Mali'ker seem to be slowly turning into the Mori. Many prefer the underground, many resort to violence over words, and many detest the Mali'aheral as they do the Mali'ker. The Mali'aheral... Well... Mercury said it. They do have reasons in lore and rp to hate other races and insult them. Though, if they weren't constantly harassed that most likely wouldn't be happening in Rp.
The three forms of Elves are different for a reason... It is not uncommon to see Mali'ame or Mali'aheral kicking ass and taking names... Nor is it uncommon to see a Mali'ker who loves nature. It is all how you Rp it, but the Elves are split in three due to the way most people Rp them. To unify them would be great, but its elves like Artimec, Azula, Kalenz, and at times Kolyat (all Ic of course) that cause such tension and splits. And I say like, because their are others that escape my mind.
In my opinion, Malinor is not all that bad now, considering Elsyium was a mess... But in Rp and Irl logic, the Princedom of Malinor would cease to exist, or be near that point. The elves, which has already been stated, are not a warlike race. Now, there can of course be skilled Elves, that is why they have a military, but for a race like the Elves, neutrality is the ideal state. That way they will not be constantly attacked and be able to have trading with the other races. The turmoil within Malinor may crumple it at some point and that I think is what is trying to be avoided...