things have been getting better imo. telanir’s began to actually focus on RP and story, lag is being fixed, although lotc does still have its many flaws
Some of the more active places are Helena, Aegrothond, Haelunor and Sutica. Although Hnor and Aegrothond are both restricted in who comes in (elves only, stuff like that, but Aegrothond is more lenient when it comes to that), afaik. Ggood luck tho