New to LOTC

[Beardicuss 486]

My strongest advice? don't do 100% into one community that lead to a whole bunch of issues of you becoming way too invested into that community and their rp niche and not exploring all the other rp niches enjoy them all.

[Thalyric 72]

Don't play too many characters at one time. You'll stumble, find one you enjoy more than the others, and regret not being able to follow up on the storylines of others.

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[KaiserJacobII 1455]

Do not fear perma-killing (pking) your characters when they die, just as you shouldn't feel shame for not pking them when they die. Perma-kills are major story moments in the lives of your character and other characters, but they can also be tough. Take a moment if you have to. Remember, nobody except in the case of a pk clause, can force you to pk, and in a non-clause pk, you always have one week to reverse the pk decision 

[Digit___ 1223]

If ya start making items to sell, you can use /edit on a stack of items and it will consume only one [1] Edit Token! You'll be able to sell items after a certain amount of time playing on the server!

[_xMika 284]

Like some have already stated i would say prioritize your own enjoyment above anything else don't let people push you around and try to tell you how to play your own character, but also don't be extremely closed off to opportunities offered to you. Some people, have a set mindset to how they want their character to be which is fine, but try to be open to some change maybe it will lead to something really fun. One of the best advice in my opinion is don't take this server to seriously, remember that even a defeat is an opportunity for your character to grow as a person. Maybe he will get a sick ass scar, or he will become obsessed with revenge and ext anything on this server is a spring board for more RP if you're creative enough.  Oh and PLEASE don't do military RP, i know i said to be open minded but trust me that shit is straight buns.

[Telmster 130]

I don't remember if it was mentioned before but I highly recommend not sitting around passively waiting for RP to come to you. Find something that drives your character and gives them a reason to go up to others, and generate RP from there! It's so much more fun and there's a lot less frustration when you dont rely on others to take the initiative. 

 

And dont be afraid to make things intentionally harder for yourself. Sure, you could read a forum lore post and pretend your character already knows it. But you can also make it a quest to try to seek out that information in roleplay! Same with CRP situations. If you try to dodge every attack it gets boring quickly. But if both sides are being honourable and having fun expect that you might take a few hits and still stay alive, which can just help drive the narrative forward. How does your character feel about being injured? Are the injuries permanent? Do they feel angry or ashamed? Does it spur them to want to become a healer to be able to pay forward the healing they got? Things like that!

 

Lastly, I'm pretty sure some others have mentioned it but LOTC can be pretty addictive. You're living a whole second life which is great and amazing, and there's nothing quite like LOTC for fueling creativity, but it's not great when it starts to become more of a priority than your real life. I had to have a few ground rules for myself which might help other people as well:

- Don't play LOTC past midnight 

- Never cancel anything irl for LOTC

- Don't play when you're feeling really bad

- If you cant seem to get any rp going in 15 minutes, log off and try later (as opposed to mindlessly jumping around all day. surely there are more fun things to do!)

LOTC can be really really fun but it is important to keep in mind that at the end of the day it is 'just' a game and it is best enjoyed in moderation :)

 

Anyway, those are just my two cents. I hope you have a great time on the server!!

 

 

whoops this became really long. one more thing i forgot to add is that keeping a character diary/journal is a really fun way to keep track of what your character knows! 

 

[Chimeraof1999 1187]

The Strongest Advice I can give you these people can't is.

 

Have fun.

Don't be afraid of losing connections because of an IC Character dying, you will always get those connections back no matter what. Don't get stressed out over IC and OOC drama on LOTC, it genuinely isn't worth it.

Don't listen to the doomers, there is always a place for you on LOTC. There is always someone like minded and genuine who is willing to help you or hang out. Do not be afraid to look. 

Have fun, embrace the autism on this server!

[Jaslaw 602]

Ooc meddling and pex abuse is quite frequent, try to not get involved and keep things in character but be mentally prepared for what awaits you in this hell we all call home ❤️

[Onion 246]

20 hours ago, KeiaTypeBeat said:

Btw it is actually okay and normal to derive enjoyment from making others feel positive things when they interact with you. 

 

Just remember - just cuz someone didn't enjoy an interaction with us doesn't necessarily mean we did anything wrong. If you are doing something wrong out of genuine ignorance, people around you should offer help and guidance. Or, better yet, they should contact CT - Community Team - so someone with that responsibility can help you. No one signed up to be a teacher unless they did!

 

You're new. It's unreasonable to expect perfection. 

 

Otherwise, good reasoning to follow is that other people's reaction to things says more about them than us. People can get very emotional when things don't go their way - don't let someone use their emotions to manipulate you.

 

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Our feelings are ours to regulate. What we do with our feelings is not always valid, but the feelings come from a valid place all the same. 

 

Emotional regulation can be a struggle around here. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable with their reaction to something, it's okay to call a mod over if you feel like you can't approach something without potentially making it worse. 

 

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Breaks are important, too! Lotc as a medium can be very engaging. Very addicting, too. Don't miss out on irl opportunities just because you don't want to miss out on some roleplay. 

 

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Likewise, reading and writing are skills developed from learning experiences. Don't let anyone get harsh on you for your quality of RP. That isn't helpful, and it isn't very fair. And, if you express literary proficiency, don't use that to act like a jerk! Few will probably like you except people who want to ass kiss. 

 

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Be wary of ass kissers if you go on to obtain something others want. People can get attached to their plans, and when those plans don't go their way, they may lash out. Many such cases. You aren't obligated to provide anything just by the fact others are upset you won't give it to them!

 

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Be aware of online safety - you can never be too careful. 

 

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Expectations can be our own downfall - keep an open mind and don't take your own ambitions so seriously, you're left without adjustment room if things start misaligning with your goals. 

 

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No one has to PK unless they accept circumstances that plainly explain a PK Clause is present. That typically is reserved for specific events and playable creatures! Self induced death is also a PK Clause in and of itself. 

 

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If you log in and find your inventory messed up, make a staff ticket! I forget if it's /devreq or /techreq. This isn't a normal thing - it's just happened to a few people recently due to glitches. They'll most likely be able to give you your things back. 

 

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If you go into every combat scenario wanting to win, you are already losing! Accept that death can be fun, and acknowledging that, if you can make your death a spectacle in a CRP, you will leave a much greater impact on your rp partners, and people will want to engage with you! Taking CRP too seriously will undoubtedly get people to not feel so excited when they have to engage with you in combat. 

 

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All forms of sexual rp are banned on the server. This is not the place! We have kids here, and we like to protect those guys around here. At least, the best people do. If you don't want the littles in your life to see something, best not to emulate it on lotc! Gore, extreme violence, excessive potty language - these are all taboo and can get you in trouble.

 

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Don't get cocky when you're peacocking, or you might be so cocksure of yourself, you end up making a cockamamie post you regret posting next week. 

 

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Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh set up voting bots for daily mina if you can. They're helpful - I could give suggestions. (Am I allowed to advertise that on the forums? We will find out!)

 

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Oh! Another thing for CRP - you could do everything right, and still get a mod called on you. Just assume the best, and look at the pause in RP as a cooling period. Break into banter, and if the tension can't be broken, accept the person might just be having a bad day, and that anything they're saying isn't personal to you. Even if it is personal - it is inappropriate to bring up those grievances during a high intensity situation where emotions are on a hair trigger. You can't speak through with logic at that point.

 

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I have PTSD, and I become a nutcase if I try to speak logically when I'm having a bad episode. That doesn't excuse my behavior, and circumstances don't justify mistreating others! We can only decide, personally, if we want to give patience, or hold someone accountable. There is no right way - no one here is engaging as a therapist. Our problems are our own.  

 

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And, if your mental health is getting affected by things... It's okay! We get upset when we become passionate about something. Taking a break and going outside, spending time with friends and family if you have that privilege, will most certainly help most feel better. 

 

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The forums are a social network. Approach it how one healthily approaches any social network - with a healthy amount of emotional distance. If you don't want someone to see you crashout on Facebook, crashing out here probably won't feel good either, once emotions settle.

 

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LOTC is used by a variety of cultures. Cultural disconnections stemming from miscommunication are possible! We don't have to agree with each other to treat each other with respect. 

 

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And always remember - it's okay to get emotional about rp, so long as you handle your emotions and don't push them on others. I think the best indicator of our writing prowress is when our writing has the capability of making people feel real things. 

 

It's okay to get sentimental. It's okay to get upset. It's okay to be a human being with emotions. It's not okay to make them other people's issues when those people didn't consent to being in our support network. 

 

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It's cheaper to get Diamond VIP on 3 different accounts than it is to get the max VIP perk. Imo, Diamond is where the highest utility is. I am biased, lol. But if you only want more persona slots - buy an alt Minecraft account and register it with us. It's more affordable. 

 

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Don't forget to take care of your basic needs every day! We can interact with others the best when we feel our best!

 

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Lastly, mostly because I feel like I've gone long enough, I hope you enjoy your time here, and I hope the experience is as worthwhile for you as it has been for me, and so many other players who have been blessed enough to find good space here. 

 

Lotc is a blessing, but it can also be a deep mental health sink if approached the wrong way. Hense why most of my advice has to do with emotional regulation. More often than not, conflict begins with an honest miscommunication or misunderstanding, and we let our emotions tell us it was on purpose, or personal, or indicative of someone's honest feelings about us.

 

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Most of the time people care too much about their own lives to think so much about others. That's not a bad thing, either. It's part of being human. If you find yourself dwelling on a situation or how someone treated you, talk to someone about it, someone you trust. Maybe reaching out to the person in question is good, maybe it's bad. Social skills are learned. Messing up is fine - not accepting a "go away" is harassment. 

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And, if you realize YOU mistreated someone... Reach out to them and apologize. Maybe give it a week for the situation to settle. Begin the conversation with "I've come to realize," and explain what you did, how you can understand if it hurt them, and show honesty and empathy. 

 

And, if they do respond to your apology... That means it is time for you to sit down, listen, and engage with them from a learning position. They might be upset for something you don't understand hurt them, so go into it with an open mind!

 

Alternatively... This is just a game. Reaching out to someone upset with you is a personal choice. It can have risks. Weigh those risks. And, if you genuinely don't care, that's okay! It's not a bad thing to be unable to form online attachments or be able to empathize with people as well as we can irl. You aren't a therapist! I would only really suggest reaching out if you know exactly what you did wrong, and a feeling of guilt prevents you from moving on. 

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And, just as a wellness tip, whenever you are feeling intense emotions, or are struggling with a social interaction, writing an apology, or writing how someone made you feel, or listing out your feelings in notes can alone be what your body needs to help process its feelings!

 

You may not even have to send what you wrote to anyone. Throwing it away when you feel better is a perfect option! But, if you are going to send it, consider rewriting what you wrote so it doesn't have the emotion you vented into it when your feelings were so high. 

 

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I hope any of this helps! I really believe the biggest issue people have with lotc begins when they start struggling to separate things emotionally. This is just a game. It isn't our lives. It isn't life or death when things don't go out way. Things are not going to go our way sometimes! If they did, we would lose so many experiences that help us grow as writers, and as people. 

 

I hope you have a good day! 

 

𐓏𐒰𐓇𐒼𐒰͘ - Do Your Best!

Ayo? This is gold I wish I got this when I first joined lmaooo

[Metamancy 1759]

have fun!

[Turnipian 203]

Call pvp, **** crp.

[simatra 373]

If you see someone with a green nametag playing a big stone thing, or with a big stone thing with them, wandering the roads, know you're about to have the worst combat encounter of your life and ask if you can just d20

[___ 361]

Randomize your personality traits. I usually make a list of CK3 personality traits and spin a wheel 3-4 times to see what I get. It's fun.

[ClassyDryad 2367]

Don't pk your characters unless it's narratively satisfying to you. People in certain communities will sometimes attempt to peer pressure pk on first death but they generally don't do this for their own friends so ignore them.

 

Avoid looking at magic lore for a bit. You will have to do so eventually but you'll spoil the magic of it by interrogating the lore too much.

 

Don't let people force you outside your ooc healthy comfort zone. Many things that would do so (torture rp, perm magical effects on your character, and so on) have consent clauses you have to accept, or can be skipped by ftb. If they just say "do you consent" ask about the consequences of said thing because they almost always have one if there is a consent clause attached.

 

Try to find something for your character to do that gets you into rp consistently, whether that is town guard rp, a travelling merchant, or so on.

 

There is always a small chance while on the server you'll be attacked by something do don't get on if you have something important to do in an hour (combat usually takes longer than that.)

[Wolfy-D 466]

i dont have any advice, just wanna say hello