Even outside the war, the behavior discussed here can happen when one simply leaves a Nation or some RP conflict breaks out, war simply pushes these cases to happen more than they usually would during peacetime. It has gotten to the point where I don't trust people when they complain about people being metaplayers, OOC toxic or horrible people unless I see something be it my own experience or evidence, otherwise people repeating similar stories and having no real connection to one another barring their interactions with the same player/group, everyone agrees that those types of people suck (metaplayers, etc) but more often than not the people that scream about them the hardest are probably also the worst offenders. It was pretty upsetting to me that when I was trying to focus on other projects after leaving a community, former 'friends' proceeded to try to drag my name through the dirt, vaguely remarking about how I am all OOC, toxic, etc, however, some of the complaints in my opinion bordered on insane from what I got told recently, for context I ran a build server originally for this community but decided to extend it as it would save me time and server box resources, they were upset that I had allowed 'too many people' on MY build server, and during the time I was hosting them they were afraid I was going to delete the worlds and remove their access, consistently kept voicing this fear to regular players despite the fact when I did eventually close of their access both in part to them running my name through the dirt and the way they had treated other players being overly toxic or attempting to metaplay against them, I'd given them the world files so they had everything they had built. To top all that off, before I had even closed off access to my build server, they all stood by while another player finally pushed me out of the community on my birthday, of all days. I think in anyone's opinion, I owed these people none of the patience I had extended towards them.
I can't say I was too surprised that it happened in some form and was something I had expected, I've been around RP servers for ages so it is pretty easy to know how these things go down, I could have gone to the players before any these people could have said anything about me but I just stood by the fact the truth was going to get out one way or another, be it they reach out to me or people finally realize by putting the pieces together by way of how they conducted themselves verus myself, as this is usually what happens majority of the time. I share this experience for several reasons. I agree that it is up to everyone to keep LotC's environment respectable, and part of that will come from people having a real reflection of their conduct on the server, be it the way they treat other players OOCly or if they stand by or take action when another player is being treated poorly. I also want to say I believe the ideal way to play the server is how you want to, I've had more fun and enjoyment being completely unshackled from any expectation I had in my former position and not associating closely with groups/players if they don't reflect the standards I believe should be upheld (not just LotC standards but just in general). I also hope that sharing this might help players in some form if they ever find themselves in a similar position, because as soon as things went downhill with that community, it genuinely was one of the worst experiences I've ever had my entire time RPing on any server.