Unwillingly

aside from just quality of writing, the single biggest difference is that good rpers are willing to lose, not be in the limelight, have moments of weakness, etc, in service of a better story.

bad rpers either refuse to let themselves be anything but a winner or seek to avoid consequence at every turn.

I am the good roleplayer and everyone else is a bad roleplayer

a good roleplayer cares about the experience of those he interacts with.