Stages Of Love

[TheBareSheet 194]

After reading Urara's romance guide once more, I decided I wanted to also contribute to our community on my thoughts about so.

 

 

Hey people of LOTC, I kinda know this is a touchy topic, its kind of squirmy, some of us are underaged. But you know what? I think the more we know about it, the more mature we get, the more we accept the fact of it. We focus on how uncomfortable of how it is, but to remind us all, this is role-play, this is how your character feels, nothing to be uncomfortable about, its emotion, same as how we feel happy or sad. Even if you truly wish to avoid this topic, to remind this is a period of life, maybe duty to some people who had been taught in culture, finally just appreciate literature!

 

To move into the topic, I believe there are stages in love and life.

 

Stage 1 - Friendship

 

 

There is a sliver of chance for love at first sight, but that just judged by the appearance. Love builds, doesn't magically appear. To start building, it would be nice if you started to be friends with the person. Feel comfortable around his/her presence. 

 

 

Stage 2 - Trust

 

 

Why bffs are bffs? It is built heavily upon trust. The trust to put responsibility, to trust to spill your secrets, the trust to rely on that person.

 

 

Stage 3 - Crushes

 

 

Not all friends eventually become your crush, but to start it, you build a crush. What is a crush? It can be affection, desire, admiration, unconsciously and consciously. I suppose everybody understands how people feel awkward around their crush? You have more acutely aware of their presence and actions. What they say or their opinion towards you.

 

 

Stage 4 - Acknowledgement

 

 

Of course you can't force somebody into loving you. To actually build a romantic relationship, both parties must acknowledge their love, affection, attraction to the other one. In this stage, you can see and go out, try to feel how the person thinks, likes to do, hobbies… Find common interests, topics to talk about. [DO NOT START GOING OUT WITH SOMEONE IF YOU KNOW YOU CAN NEVER MARRY THEM, that is so selfish, if your family already betrothed you, or you are already married, or seeing somebody else, don't ruin everything, don't disappoint the other person, just honestly tell him you can't since [your reason]]

 

 

Stage 5 - Attachment

 

 

Now that you know how that person likes his food cooked, genres of books, whatever interest, you might start looking for a true spark between each other. Do you see the beauty in the other person? Do you find yourself in anguish when the other person is hurt? Do you worry for the other person when he/she is away from your side? Do you feel your heart beat faster when you hold hands? Do you feel yourself happy when you see the other person smiling with joy?

 

 

Stage 6 - Intimation

 

 

To proceed slightly further, you might start to explore in areas of physical intimation. Does he/she drape his hand across your shoulders? Does he/she take your hand and spread their warmth? Does he/she hug you fiercely? Does he/she kiss you on the cheek? Do you find he/she often staring at you with love and tenderness?

 

 

Stage 7 - Confirmation

 

 

Do you truly love this person? Will you forgive him/her for his/her mistake? Are you sure you wish to live with him/her for the rest of your life? If so, I guess you guys could marry!

 

 

Stage 8 - Respect

 

 

Now that you are married, you have to learn about respect of their decisions and opinions. Be aware that you have to include your other half. Of course this is the best and most legitimate time to ftb, if you choose to do so.

 

 

Stage 9 - Parenthood

 

 

Assuming you do have children, you have to learn how to leave work and spend more family time. You might like to take your family to a vacation, trip to a holiday manor, have cosy dinnertime, or reading bedtime stories. Of course, wanting the best for your children, you better start teaching him/her some survival skills, ethical and moral beliefs, nurture their interest…

 

 

Stage 10 - Recognising boundaries

 

 

Of course now, you're pretty old, and your children are grown up or at teenage stage. You have to recognise that you have to give your children the freedom of choice. You also have to recognise your own physical and mental limitations. Your knees might start to hurt, eyes start to blur… This is also the best time to go back to your spouse. Stay at home, spend some quality time with each other, keep each other happy and content. Of course it is reasonable to demand your children to respect you and come home to visit your old couple.

 

 

Stage 11 - Nearing Death

 

 

You might start to wonder when you would die, your life burdened by constant pain. You might feel weak and useless, but always remember, your spouse should be able to support you, spend time talking, comforting each other. It might also be a good time to find faith and religion.

 

 

This is the end of my stages.

 

You might see many stages, even nearing death, why did I include that? Yes, it's true, in marriage you are bonded with each other till your death, I assume you know that when you swore your oath to each other. 

 

I hope this guide helps people more! And remember love takes patience! Don't rush, you'll probably get rejected.

[o_Ben_o 193]

Love and Relationships can be unique and personal. I think the real special thing about it is that it can be whatever you want it to be and makes the couple happy. Love RP doesn't have to be stereotypical, it can be whatever you want it to be.

[TheBareSheet 194]

I agree. And of course that is definitely understandable.

[neopianzz 13]

I like it +1 to you!

[Haelonavious Varunthaar 12]

There's some good points here :) but I'm sure much like real life, everything comes as it happens and the stages are not set in concrete. They become merged together and things happen that can change mindsets :P +1 overall though thanks for the read

[ACanadianCraft (Nate) 682]

It saddens me somewhat that people are so inept in the Game of Romance that a guide is necessary...

[George of House Glover 372]

Guide to Orc loves

step 1: mate

step 2: repeat step 1

[Meanking 311]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ktbhw0v186Q

[Aedan The Bard 350]

I support this guide. Both of my characters, Cymrych and Aedan, are annoyed to see how couples meet each other, hang out for one mc day and then have wild monkey sexual intercourse.

 

Message to those players:

 

Realism doesn't mean like real life. No, people did not get laid as fast as it happens now-a-days, people. Geez.

[spqrSancus 175]

I really like this particular guide. Someone pin it? Please?

[DelaneyG 1279]

Or you could do what my character did. Be a badass and honor duel the guy who was going steady wi the girl that my character wanted.

You can win, and roflstomp the guy, or you can try and lose, and get dem sympathy points.

[Haelonavious Varunthaar 12]

Or you could do what my character did. Be a badass and honor duel the guy who was going steady wi the girl that my character wanted.

You can win, and roflstomp the guy, or you can try and lose, and get dem sympathy points.

I lol'd hard xD

 

That's a very interesting way to approach the situation. Maybe write a guide on "Dueling for Love?" xD 

[spqrSancus 175]

:)

 

Arthal + Turri. May they rest forever in the afterlife.

 

:P

[Acornlad 206]

Please add that love sucks.

[DelaneyG 1279]

Please add that love sucks.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^