Unwillingly

If someone is uncomfortable with roleplay, they should go out of their way to avoid that type of roleplay. If the discomfort is great, a discussion should be attempted so the community can decide whether or not this is a cultural problem that needs to be changed via policy, community action, etc, or if it should remain an individual's responsibility to manage. 

No one is hurt by open communication and productive discourse. Except people with questionable motives, in my honest opinion. Might be my PTSD talking there, but I think that's a logical take.

I'm fine with roleplaying problematic concepts. This is undoubtedly open knowledge.

Personally, it's beneficial to countering my PTSD, and my therapist and I talk heavily about how I have been benefitting from being able to interact with things that upset me irl that I can handle easier irp. It's healing. It's also thrilling for me as a writer.

Generally, I think society as a whole would benefit if they consumed or produced more media that gets them to engage with the problematic. 

That being said, what I care about is those problematic concepts being used as a vehicle for manipulative OOC motives. Like Shade. Shade helped me give voice to this part of myself I later learned was PTSD. Shade helped someone else stalk my friend irl. That OOC misconduct trumps any sort of benefit I got from the magic, and I fully acknowledge it cannot exist like it used to without being taken advantage of. 

It is just a game is the mindset I had with Shade. I do not have the personal commitment others have with roleplay. I do not make plans, I am completely okay with bad things happening to my characters. "It is just a game" stopped me from acknowledging the real issues that were going on all around me. Disregarding the person directly manipulating me. 

Nuance and discussion is what matters. I think if people talked about these things more, we could encourage a culture that is less dependent on needing sweeping acts of policy change and community inflammation if more people talked candidly like this. 

At the very least, it shows those problematic people that there are people on the server watching out and examining their actions, and that is a tangible act of security that does have an effect on communities, online, irp, regardless. That is the heart of public outreach. 

There are books written that glamorize problematic topics in a way that risks normalizing predatory behavior, trivializing serious topics, etc. 

There are books written irl that speak earnestly of problematic topics that give appropriate voice and validity to the issue behind the problematic context, and those books have the power to spread awareness, open minds, provide perspectives without necessitating a real person's victimization. 

Sometimes people glamorize the problematic on accident. I did that a lot in my effort to give voice to traumas I experienced irl. That wasn't fair for me to do, and my ignorance doesn't excuse it.

I still really like problematic romance that speaks to domestic abuse. But I know now not to project real trauma, and guide it to be respectful, and consensual, and well informed with the people who engage with me in that area. Personally, I think healthy irp relationships are pretty damn boring, and I only really care much about maintaining them while they are fun, or if it's a romance I started with an OOC partner. 

A lot of the outreach stuff I speak about, both on lotc and irl, is stuff I wish someone told me. I have made this my irl passion for a reason.

I did not have good adults in my life to give me the common sense I feel I should have had for my age at the time. This is why I am passionate about open communication.

There are others born of neglect that use roleplay and online communities to cope with that. They're at a big risk of being victimized. They're also likely the most innocently ignorant. Those people deserve to be given information they otherwise have gone without.

topics of genocide, toxic romances, excessive violence, irl culture bleed, anything that can be taken a wrong way or misused by bad actors glamorizing sensitive topics or, worse, genuinely causing ooc harm with them. 

Examples of ooc harm we should care about when considering realism over fantasy: undermining disparaged groups, glamorizing abusive behavior and not criticizing it, romantic predation, etc.

It's all nuanced, ultimately. But sometimes nuance itself can hinder a narrative. It can get to a point of unreasonability.

Nuance becomes more important the higher the risk there is for enjoyment to be aversly affected, ooc harm to be perpetuated, and accepting what can be practicality accomplished and what is unrealistic to expect.