realistically, Defender default is a compromise. Most of people's worries revolve around getting tossed around by pvp goons, but people fail to realize that if a pvp goon pulls up and attacks you, as the defender you can just call CRP and CRP your way out of the fight lol. The choice is given to the defender, which imo is the one who isnt slated to be guaranteed to have the time to spend on a 4 hour CRP fight.
So it is best that they are given the choice of quick or slow. If you play a villainous character, and you run around attacking people, you should be ready to spend the time on CRP if the one you attack calls for it. And Vice versa. I genuinely dont understand why people believe it to be a bad thing. The only way you would make this even more of a compromise would be by adding some of the rp elements into the pvp, like a magic plugin and what have you, but considering that has been in the works since forever.
(an ancient orc vs haelunor warclaim was delayed to wait for the magic plugin) It's likely not ever gonna happen, unless Tythus decides to pay his devs like most big servers do.
Yes, this is becoming a rant about paying devs. Because theres no way you will justify charging 500 USD for a bold yellow name but somehow cannot afford to compensate the devs on a per plugin basis LOL.