Serious Post

[Kvasir 1121]

 

 

     This post is going to be a more serious so if you don't like these types of posts you can just move along to your role. I am making this post because on this server I have been feeling pretty bad, I mean I am with a good group of people but I do have some troubles. Recently I have been struggling to be happy with myself and what people think about here, and even if I truly don't care, it is still hard to get that through my head. I really don't know whats been wrong with me recently but I have been feeling really sad for some reason and that's why I've been messaging people so much more now, so if your annoyed by that and if I message you sometimes, that's why. I am sorry for everything I've done or said I really don't mean anything mean I say I just get frustrated sometimes. I try really hard to be nice and fair to everybody buts it hard sometimes, man. This community is built in such a way where it is hard to know if people are taking pity on you and talking about you behind your back, I know this because I've done it to people and I know how it works... This post is probably going to be laughed at as well and I know that... I barely even care anymore but for some reason I still want the community approval of what I do and I want to feel accepted. It's hard trying to do this when everything you do is being judged, I guess its not different from much else... I've just been feeling sad and I want to say I'm sorry if I've been annoying, the only reason I writing this is to try to make myself feel better... I just want people to know that I don't try to annoy them or be mean to them I am just frustrated and I am trying my hardest, please. Goodbye guys happy new year and I'm sorry for being so shitty and 'obnoxious'. I feel so worn down by everything and I am also very thankful for all of you. I hope that I'm not the only one here who feels like this way. Its so incredibly annoying or... Tolling to feel this way all the time guys and i just want to say sorry. Good night guys...

[DISCOLIQUID 2702]

TBH I dunno like how old you are IRL but if you're under the age of 20 and you've felt sad for a while, I'd really try to reach out and get some emotional support from a professional. Above the age of 20, same thing, but it's really really important to develop healthy psychosocial coping mechanisms before that age. 

 

Shine on, nerd. I still like you.

[winterblood 11181]

Yo dude, if you're feeling a bit down and have been like that for a while, I suggest what Disco said. And if you're ever needing

someone on the server to talk to, you could always PM me, I wouldn't mind it at all. 

[Cave_Creature 467]

Been there and done that, my friend. Just keep talking to the people that listen.

[Praetor 1550]

Get off LoTC it's not going to help you. Once you have something worthwhile going on in real life, consider whether or not you want to come back.

[Slothtastic 761]

No dude! Yer mah best friend! Ye can talk to me!

[Ford 1996]

take omega-3 fish oil pills

 

also yeah what Praetor said

 

[colovian fur 8360]

Larry eat your vitamins

[Vege 4804]

Hey mr tambourine man play a song for me

[Mankaar 166]

Not a professional on the matter and if it's only been recently you could just be feeling down however I don't see how it would hurt to point out that it could be S.A.D (Seasonal Affective Disorder) it kicks up during the Fall/Winter months and affects many, many people. If you think taking a break is for the best then do what's best for you and don't be afraid to reach out to others (family, friends, medical professionals if need be). Taking time off is often a nice reinvigorating experience and please don't be so critical of that behavior you think you're expressing as often times we are to hard on ourselves, Have a happy new year and I wish you the best in 2017!

[Space 2335]

the fact that you'd make a post about this is really good. it means you're alright with talking about it a little bit

 

but yeah you should definitely talk to someone who can help. Make an appointment with a doctor, tell your parents, whoever will listen. Talk to people on LotC and IRL and be good

 

being a teeanger sucks i'm still one it's hard to figure **** out and be happy and not regret literally everything you do and yeah but just know that it will end and everything that happens now is just a foundation that the rest of your life will be built on y'know? you make a mistake now that means you'll probably not make that mistake in the future, or atleast not as bad, right?

[Guest]

What everybody else said is good to note and you should really do it. I got nothing better to add on to this, but I hope you start feeling better and find a new outlook for your life. You're a good kid, I'm sorry for whatever it is that's eating you up at the moment.

[shortchangehero 4217]

go learn a martial art or play a sport and build self esteem

 

no lie youll feel better and be able to deal with **** like this more

[Dr. Ducky-D 277]

I dunno if I'm late to being helpful or what but I have a few words<-(complete understatement) I hope could lend a hand.

 

2 hours ago, The Combatant said:

go learn a martial art or play a sport and build self esteem

 

no lie youll feel better and be able to deal with **** like this more

 

Just sort of building off of this idea. Not saying "Go to the gym, lift some weights, blow off some steam!" because you could be like me and deathly afraid of the gym. Still, I'd say this is a good option. Whenever I got angry it'd always feel like the house was getting smaller, so what better way to fix that than to go outside? I'd go and I'd run for like 2-3 miles and then come back, sweatier than before, but feeling better. My senior year of high school I did cross country then indoor track then outdoor track. During this time I just found myself getting on less and less and it turned into a complete year or two hiatus. I'm a volunteer coach now for the school and I have tons of fun with the team. I dunno where you are situated and what the weather is like but if you can I definitely suggest running. Here it's a little too cold right now and there is no indoor track available to the public.

 

A hobby is great. I ramble about the running because it is my hobby. It doesn't have to be yours, you may hate running. Just try to find something that makes you happy doing. It could be anything, something as simple as running or maybe you aspire to beat the world record for most instruments played by someone, who knows? It sounds like an odd hobby but if it makes you happy it's worth doing. If LoTC doesn't make you feel good then maybe it would do well to start to phase time away from it into other things that make you happier. Even if it's just different games, like something off Steam.

Also just to echo what everyone else is saying a bit here, definitely talk to people. You can talk to friends, you could talk to a professional if you believe you need the help. There is no shame in any of it. I personally consider a multitude of people my best friends and I also like to think of them as a hypothetical presidential cabinet. I go to them when I need help, I can go to certain ones at certain times and certain ones for certain issues. Never be afraid to share how you feel. If someone puts you down for feeling the way you feel or being who you are it's not that you shouldn't share how you feel they aren't worth keeping around.
 

Sorry if I've rambled a bit, its a tad late but I wanted to try to lend a hand. I hope this is relatable though, 'cause I definitely feel like I can relate to you. You're not alone friend.
Tl;Dr Running is pretty cool, do suggest. Look for hobby, something that makes you happy. Never be afraid to talk to people, don't keep toxic people around.

Much love, happy 2017 and have a good morning, noon, afternoon, or perhaps night. You can PM me whenever.

[Summorox 55]

That exactly describes how I felt during a few months of 2016 and 2015 and I have managed to become happier recently. What you need to do is to take a break from LOTC until you start feeling better with yourself. It doesn't have to be permanent,just a few months. LOTC is a close community,due to it's 'low' amount of members(compared to other bigger communities) and that in itself can be a double edged sword. On one side,one can feel more involved with the community and can more easily form friendships,but on the other hand, everything a person does on the server or on forums is in a spotlight,because anyone can easily know what you have done. I'd be the first one to admit it: I wrote some stupid **** on the forums and on the server whining about magic and some other stuff and when I finally regained some common sense,I became constantly worried and anxious that people on the server saw me in a negative image or were talking behind my back. Due to this,I started trying to be nicer to people and trying to be more self-conscious if my rp or OOC attitude was annoying someone. Unfortunately,I don't think that worked out,because, because I ended up messaging people too many times and being generally clueless by asking a **** ton of questions to the same people without being aware that perhaps I was annoying them (I'm sorry @Toxzero :( you were a great friend and one of the people who were always nice to me,but I feel like I was only being an annoyance to you guys on the Enchantry due to my lack of skill in rp and by pming you way too much, so I thought it would be best for me to leave.). Eventually,I decided to take a break from the server since I simply wasn't feeling happy like I used to when rping on the server. And I have to say, I'm starting to feel happier with my life ever since I did this and began going to a therapist regularly. I'm feeling so much better that maybe in the next few months I might come back to the server:)

 

Oh wow,I wrote way too much than what I intended to. It was good to get this out of my chest anyway.