[Archived]An Apology and Another Plea

[Bananasaurus 64]

Hey there. You may or may not have heard of the drama surrounding this post that I made.

 

 

Whoops.

 

I know most people had the take-way that I overreacted because "it was just a meme, bro," and I agree. Part of it was just a meme. However, the other part of it was that the meme was just a very small piece of straw that had broken a very tired and over-encumbered camel's back.

 

For that, I am sorry. I am sorry that I snapped at people, and likely burned many of the bridges I had made with a lot of you. I admit I am not in a good place in my life, and I am overly sensitive to specific triggers, while stronger against others. 

 

I use Minecraft as an escape from the sh*t-stain of a life I'm currently living (lol you do not want to know, trust me), and when people say stuff directed at or around me, like the slurs I mentioned, it just... I mean, let's put it this way.

 

I let a lot of sh*t slide. All day, every day. I "took the high road," on a lot of things in life and online, even joked around with people slinging them. But after relentless waves of sh*t slamming into the support beams underneath that road, the stupid, silly meme that honestly was not meant to hurt anyone just ended up collapsing beneath me. I lashed out in the only way I knew how: making a long-winded, SJW-sounding post about it. That was a very, very bad decision.

 

This time, I'll be as brief as I can. Here goes nothing.

 

 

If I haven't burned every single bridge I built with the people on LotCs, then I'd love to come back. I'll just be turning off Global OOC for a while. I'll take a step back when I need it, and thicken my skin as much as  can. I'll take the advice I've been given to heart. 

 

In the end, however, I still think it's not okay for people to freely toss about slurs, but I realize the only person I can change is myself. I wanted a rule to be added so that people to use [insert list of racial, ethnic, and anti-trans slurs] as little as possible, but I know it's still going to happen. I've accepted this.

 

I still love this server, and want to salvage what I can in the way of friendships. I know I have to change some things about me in order to do that, and I'm willing to. I nly ask for and would appreciate your understanding... and forgiveness.

 

In closing, as much as possible:

 

 

Much love and respect,

 

- Nanners

[Sky 0]

Mate, honestly it's not worth opening yourself up to be thrown down the stairs. The vocal majority of people tend to be filled with kids who love being edgy. Just do you, have a good time with what you are doing, and if you need someone to chat with or vent, feel free to contact me. Have a good day.

[Bananasaurus 64]

Thank you for your concern, and offer. I've friended you on Discord. :3

As for people throwing me down the stairs for this?

 

 

I got dis'. I'll be ok.

[GloriaPreussens 798]

You're part of a quite toxic community, if you feel you can't handle it, there is no shame in taking a break. That's not meant to sound rude, in fact I encourage you get away if you feel the community isn't something you can handle right now. The fact is, there are hundreds of people here, and not everyone may agree with your opinion on things, and tend to be vocal.

 

As I said, if you can't handle it, there's no shame in turning your back on something that isn't doing you any good.

[NotEvilAtAll 10906]

If you desire for someone non-toxic to talk to, I suppose you could always talk to me or some of the other rather nice halflings I know!

Gregory Nelson#2321 is my discord.

 

[Telanir 6975]

In my personal opinion, the best way to experience roleplay on this server is to /leave looc and /leave ooc.

Figuratively speaking, of course.

 

Be deliberate with your OOC on the server, which means use private-messages sparingly and avoid third-party contact.

 

Wander around, find a tight-knit community that appreciates your arrangement adequately, and make a home there as best as you can.

[Bananasaurus 64]

3 minutes ago, NotEvilAtAll said:

If you desire for someone non-toxic to talk to, I suppose you could always talk to me or some of the other rather nice halflings I know!

Gregory Nelson#2321 is my discord.

 

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 Okie dokie, smol fren. :3

Many thanks!

2 minutes ago, Telanir said:

In my personal opinion, the best way to experience roleplay on this server is to /leave looc and /leave ooc.

Figuratively speaking, of course.

 

Be deliberate with your OOC on the server, which means use private-messages sparingly and avoid third-party contact.

 

Wander around, find a tight-knit community that appreciates your arrangement adequately, and make a home there as best as you can.

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 Done and done, except for L-OOC because I need to know what people are saying about the RP unfortunately. :P

[AGP 3169]

I agree with @Telanir. Been years since I actually had the global ooc chat open for longer than 3 minutes.

[Kaldwin_ 241]

Sometimes this server makes LoL look tame. OOC is one of the most toxic cesspools I've seen (not saying I never contributed to the toxicity)

[Slothtastic 761]

Sometimes saying those things is our way of accepting you into our society of cancer and salt. But other than that, I advise you to just not take it to heart. This is a game. Tranny and trap are slurs dubbed by an organization. But that does not mean they are slurs towards everyone. Lot of the time they’re memes. But I honestly doubt anyone could take offense to tranny or trap. Unless you cannot take a joke. Or rather, you are overly sensitive. Don’t get me wrong, do what you want and be happy. But don’t be so damned sensitive when someone says sh*t like that. That’s how some communities express themselves. And I’ll be honest, when someone gets triggered and starts sh*tting on that because someone said those and they’re ‘slurs’ doesn’t make you very welcome. I don’t mean this in an offensive way, but, welcome to LotC. 

[Bananasaurus 64]

One thing I will say for sure: even Global OOC is better than Trade Chat on WoW.

Like, lawdy lawd.

Them's some toxic, angery neckbeards and horny teenagers up in there.

Never, ever go to Goldshire. It is a cesspool of bad ERP and even worse PVP. It is called "Pornshire" and "Pwnshire" for a reason.

[zaezae 1098]

The simple truth is that there are a lot of **** heads that play this game. 

[Bananasaurus 64]

Just now, zaezae said:

The simple truth is that there are a lot of **** heads that play this game. 

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XD omfg

[Tsuyose 3285]

honestly i'd suggest just keeping to the rp, i know you and i haven't particularly seen eye-to-eye but if people **** on you just ignore it and move on, they'll thrive on your reaction & it's what they want

[_krug_ 247]

No offense man, but it really helps if you don't post unfunny images underneath your messages, that's the perfect bait for the very people that are gonna talk **** to you.

 

Don't beat yourself up too much, though. Keep to the RP, avoid OOC.