Disheartened

My questions dont need to be about rp or the server, but I intended them to be within the context of that 10 year timeframe from start of your server experience until now! ☺️ How do you feel you have grown and/or changed as a person? What is your most proud accomplishment?

This is cool I guess but where are the vapes

I do agree with what you're saying as a concept, but a few things to point out. Firstly, not everyone has the same interests. People absolutely do act oocly and do things to help leverage themselves for an advantage. That's something both sides do, it’s just tough to recognize sometimes from people on your own side because it isn't directed at you, and you don't necessarily see the consequences. You can't generalize the interests of a whole population of players. You are only one person with your own unique set of beliefs - as we all are! We also need to acknowledge the complexity of "keep ooc and rp separate" because at the end of the day we are all one individual person. Naturally, we might get frustrated at things that happen in game on an ooc basis. I think that's normal, but it's all in how you handle it going forward from there. Can you or should you take rp action simply due to ooc frustration? Absolutely not... but let's be honest and understand that these lines blur and cross regularly. Some opportunity might pop up and you have some bias there in your mindset just due to x y z things that happened that one time in a vc. Sometimes we're oblivious to that bias. How can we fix all that? We can't, but if we notice it happening we can help our friends and peers fall back into line to the best of our abilities. It's definitely helpful to have all this in the back of our minds during times of war or other "intense" roleplay periods. Good conversation to have!

Hey there, I don't know you but I do know this server! A lot of us have been where you are. Things can be frustrating and intense at times. Try not to let it ruin your fun! Stick with people who don't stress you out and take breaks when you need to take breaks. Prioritize yourself always. At the end of the day, this is an online game, there is bound to be conflict even oocly since not everyone can always have their way. I just returned after a long break and am going to be in Balian, hope to see ya around!

Those are all amazing ideas! I don't know that I could anymore, but I used to volunteer at the hospital itself, and a nursing home before I became a PSW at one of the homes and then got my actual RN license. If I wasn't full time, I'd volunteer much more, but it's too much of a sacrifice to do this while also balancing other important things I've prioritized (Family friends, hobbies, self care things). I chose to make this post only because I am doing SO MUCH BETTER! Thank you so much for your positive thoughts and comment. <3

Well, here she goes. BYE! I left and came back and left and came back and left and came back to say that I have accepted that the bittersweet moment is now. I was going to disappear like a ghost, never to return again, without a word, but I can't say that I won't visit ever again. Here's why - While I'm sort of one of those "this server is crack shit and should die in a fire" jaded old players, I need to acknowledge that I spent such a huge amount of time interacting with this community through my entire adolescence, and it was a big part of my life for a time. Though a... let's say 'unique' way to cope with the stressors of life, this server provided me with countless friendships that I will think back to for probably the rest of my existence. To put it simply, I've grown to a place where I am so happy and grateful for what I've been given and the opportunities I've had in life, and no longer feel any need to use the server as a crutch. But I still thank you all for being there in a time when I did need it. People don't recognize the power of their simple presence, so I'm here to call blatant attention to it. This place saved me, for real. Kept me together until I was able to gain the courage to get myself help. I do want to leave this on a bright note though, I have used my resources to specialize in addictions and mental health treatment. That's mostly because of me (gotta take the credit, cmon I've worked hard as shit), but you're all epic for kicking around while I got it together. At this point, I kinda think I'm killing it. Maybe I took the server too seriously every now and then in the past, but I harbor no resentment or bad thoughts about any of you. Only good things to say now. Please share below some of your most favourite lotc moments, I'd love to reflect on them with you. Lastly, keep in touch. Discord: _Disheartened, Steam: https://steamcommunity.com/profiles/76561198160671690/ Snapchat: Aliciacjx. I still do video games, and feel free to just say hello if you'd like. If you feel like you're in crisis or you need to talk to someone regarding mental health, call or text 988, or you can chat online at 988lifeline.org (per cdc, I believe this is US and Canada) Self care is badass, do it.

I don't play but I saw this and thought I'd speak up, since it isn't mentioned in the main post. Keeping a main road available to navigate to nations keeps things user friendly, especially when it comes to new players who do not yet understand how soul stones work, or who may only have one slot to save a pillar to. As much as I agree things should be left to rp, it's nice to keep things like this restricted to some extent to maintain some order.

The beauty of roleplay is that everyone has their own way of doing it. There's no "understanding" courting. It varies by culture and further by person. Some communities have cultural guides made for people to follow if they so wish, some people prefer not to partake at all. It's not this black and white thing that you're making it out to be, and it doesn't need to be either.

I liked it better when we had local auction houses rather than the global one. Could travel to different places and have a new selection.

Skin: floral princess Discord: Alicia#9441 Bid: 15

Discord Tag: Alicia#9441 Skin Name: Portrait Perfect Bid(s): $20

You have freed yourself. Big respect. I appreciate what you had to say. Maybe we have butt heads before, but it's never malicious or with intent to put you down or call you wrong. I have more of a "debate" approach to things sometimes so that I can fully take a side once I have the facts straight. Thanks for your kind and understanding words. Will be real weird without you around. Best of luck in what you're off to do, say hi sometime. :)

Hello friend, I hope you find yourself a place on the server that you enjoy, and that you stick around with us. If you ever have questions, concerns, or suggestions please feel free to contact me over forum messages or on discord at Alicia#9441. No fancy place to recommend, I just hope to make your settling a little easier. 😊