UnBaed 8957 Popular Post Share Posted March 2, 2021 Hey I don’t normally make posts about RP situations, since I like to try my best to go along with whatever story is presented and make the best of it - even if it’s not in my or my character’s favor. But I feel like it should be okay for me to do this just once in my five or six years on this server, since this particular situation I had suddenly been swept up in has made me feel like utter crap - which is the first time a roleplay scenario has managed to do this to me in a LONG time. Usually, I hate speaking up to others about issues I’m dealing with since I’m worried it’ll be taken as some cheap sob story or an overreaction to something so little. The situation I speak of is the arranged marriage mess between the Imperial Family, d’Arkents, and the Helvets in Oren. As most around me already know now, my alt is imstrawbb and I RP the character Margaux Helvets. I won’t bother typing out the whole issue, but pretty much all the RP story [from my character’s honest perspective] was explained in the Karosgradian Special found here: https://www.lordofthecraft.net/forums/topic/199413-the-karosgrad-special-the-quack-of-love-doctors-emperor-joseph-ii/ You’re free to interpret the story however you like. I had just come back to this server a couple weeks ago, since I felt forced to leave it in December due to my family becoming infected with COVID-19. My mother had it the worst and proceeded to suffer from pneumonia and a blood-clot in her lungs for the past three months, which I’ve spent the majority of that time taking care of her and running errands for my family. She has slowly begun to recover, which has given me respite and more free time to try coming back to the server. When I first came back to the server, I wasn’t terribly active right away since a part of me, for some reason, just felt really nervous about it. But since I didn’t wish to disappoint my friends in the Helvets family, and saw the opportunity to make my character more dynamic and fleshed out - I made an effort to be online more with a bigger presence in RP. It was nice to be able to RP in Oren, it was a fresh experience to what I’ve had in Haense for the past year on my previous character. That’s not to say my experience in Haense was horrible, I loved RPing my character Alexandria and got to meet all sorts of fun and interesting people, including someone who I’ve grown to love dearly today. Already upon my return, I was able to meet some more nice people in Oren or reconnect with others I’ve lost touch with since my previous departure in December. Upon growing more active, I was beginning to have a lot of fun and felt excited about being back on LotC to be able to try out ideas to inspire others. My character was courting crazyeight’s and it was believed that the characters would be married, which would make Margaux a duchess - I was excited about the prospect since it would give me a better platform to offer some cultural ideas of mine to more players; however, as everyone knows: nothing went according to plan. I’m being honest when I say that this situation came out of nowhere and swept me up in the whirlpool of a mess that went on. I was confused and felt completely powerless in the whole situation, which led to me feeling embarrassed, humiliated, and dejected with the playerbase of Oren. I understand that “it’s all in RP, so deal with it in RP” - but I’ve always tried my best to even be considerate of other people OOCly while conducting my RP on LotC. It’s about the enjoyment of everyone, in my opinion -- That’s also not to say that no conflict should exist on the server, since I am a firm believer that conflict is what drives a story and makes it interesting. But conflict can exist in RP that doesn’t make you so anxious that you feel nauseous for the next two days and be left wondering what you did to have deserved being treated as I have. I’ve been trying really hard throughout this situation to remain optimistic and see how my character can move on from this interaction with development to her story, but last night felt like my breaking point. Because of that, I feel like I need to distance myself again and step away from the server for a few days in order to recover and clear my head. I'm not quitting, I just need time. 37 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
JEEGK 1267 Share Posted March 2, 2021 i love u 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheCapybara 1803 Share Posted March 2, 2021 I am so glad that you are just spewing it all out and sharing your feelings! its healthy and normal and needed for someone to do so in certain times! I really hope that you do well and have some fun and relaxation during you break. Again, be well and your the best! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
rukio 8910 Share Posted March 2, 2021 Honestly? I know how you feel, the way I was treated IC and OOC over my Stiboricz was horrendous and for absolutely no good reason. Just know that what they're doing and saying is more of a reflection on their own miserable lives than yours. Feel better soon, take your break, get some fresh air, and hopefully you come back some day because despite all of our beef you are a good roleplayer and no one deserves that sort of abuse. 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proddy 2247 Share Posted March 2, 2021 Enjoy the break dude - clear your head and come back with a fresh perspective if you feel like it. We all need time off every now and again. I enjoy your RP a lot and I as well as many others can completely understand how this situation can be stressful OOC. Just know that you always have friends in this community no matter what (myself included) 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
zuziee 3223 Share Posted March 2, 2021 I’ve had experiences like that within the Oren rp community as well. (In fact it ruined my favorite character’s story line because of PURELY ooc knowledge) It’s really stressful to feel like the system is against you. I fully support the break and hope you come back feeling refreshed :)) maisie will be waiting - hopefully not kidnapped anymore 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
VIROS 2711 Share Posted March 2, 2021 I'm sorry the situation was difficult for you--I think it was difficult for everyone. It is also not the direction I had planned to take Josephine, but I think rolling with the punches is the best way to enjoy roleplay. I hope there are no hard feelings out of character. Sorry to hear about your mother as well. Hope the break serves you well. 7 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
doreebear 601 Share Posted March 2, 2021 We love you! you're an amazing person who has a place in everyones hearts! I'm truly sorry that you are having to go through this right now, I went through the same thing in Haense where I was practically bullied simply because of a stupid mineman marriage. People have been in your position before but we are here to help you and support you! some haha funny Spoiler Spoiler 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Urahra 5359 Share Posted March 2, 2021 I'm so sorry that this situation's negatively impacted you and I hope it hasn't spoiled your experience entirely. I really enjoyed our RP as Margaux and Yuliya the other night - and I was looking forward to engaging with you more. I hope you enjoy your break and come back with enthusiasm restored. 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eryane 3629 Share Posted March 2, 2021 (edited) at the end of the day you always gotta do what's best for you, and i know you've been really strong throughout everything going on IRL - take it easy here is a compilation of vines for your break Spoiler Edited March 2, 2021 by Eryane 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
libertyybelle 5476 Share Posted March 2, 2021 I understand how hard RP things can effect people mentally and anyone who says that it doesn’t is lying and just trying to seem tough. The reality of this though is when bad things happen to our characters it effects us OOCLY because it is something we work hard on and means something to us. Most of us spend hours, days, weeks, months on a character. So when bad things happen to them it sucks and it hurts. You have every right to feel how you feel and if anyone uses the excuse “it’s just RP” to negate your feelings is dumb. We will miss you girl. Much love. 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
MunaZaldrizoti 5751 Share Posted March 3, 2021 I have never related more to a post on LOTC than this one. I have dealt, several grueling times, with being made to think an opportunity was going to happen for a persona I was growing to love, starting to make plans and imagine what I'd like to do with that opportunity, and then have it either be snatched away by another player or denied to me for some overarching ooc reason. It is not fair what happened to you. It is not fair that so many ooc hands play into the story of a character you made. I know we aren't best friends or anything, but you've always been so kind and forthcoming. If you ever want to just talk about all of this, get stuff off your chest, message me. I can say, without any doubt, that I entirely understand the nauseating and stressful experience you've been put through, and you don't deserve to go through it alone. 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fie 2521 Share Posted March 3, 2021 love u and hope u are ok. im so sorry that whole situation escalated the way it did Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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