As of about a month ago I turned 23. I joined the server when I was 12, when our community was the most unmoderated and feral, and in the difference I've been exposed to the best and - obviously relevant to this topic - worst of not only the internet at large but our very niche, secluded, dim corner of the web. In the first month of Aegis being released I encountered Indelwyn, DecoLamb, and Vardak (three names which should jog the memory of any old hat), the latter two being a pair I fell in with in the (hopefully forgotten) group House Thyone and stayed in their company for roughly 18 months. Even having firsthand real-life experience with sexual abuse, predation, and grooming at that age I did not recognize their behavior and abuse of my closest friend(s); at no point until the victim came to me in distress did I realize what had been going on for so long. Even in the wake of these revelations, bans, and shattering and splintering of friend groups I was a dumb kid and didn't think twice about starting a physical relationship with an LotCer in my area at 14 years old. In the same vein I was cozy and friendly in Ski_King's circle before and during his tenure as admin and at no point recognized the suffering of his multiple victims nor was I wise to what attempts he made at me until years after the fact. I failed my friends.
I have seen the abuse of minors most of my life: real life friends, online friends, online acquaintances, family, and myself. Nothing triggers me or boils my blood more than this subject. Not only does it rile up my traumas and start my waterworks but it bristles my base humanity and wrings out my sympathy to leave only raw hate. Beyond being our duty as humans to care about one another, this space - this community, our many circles - is special to all of us and we know what grand fun, healing, and connection it is capable of and it is our duty as a sprawling group of invested, dedicated friends to protect one another and preserve those feats. The friendships I've forged through this community are as strong as my oldest and most intimate friendships in my personal life of which there are many. I am thankful for LotC. I am thankful for my many friends. I am thankful for you. I love us, you are my people, and beyond wanting to entertain ourselves and each other we NEED to protect ourselves and each other. Nonetheless I have failed to be that guardian time and again. I failed my dearest friend, I failed acquaintances in my community, and I have failed myself and that disappointment fuels my unrelenting rage to this day. I'm an adult now. I am vigilant. I'm willing to throw down anything on the line to prevent the pain I have experienced. Our world is becoming progressively more fucked up and our passions and pastimes should not be another source of stress.
We put up with Leowarrior. We put up with Viltaren. Now we put up with HappyShackles. If communities cannot guard themselves just as my vigilance has failed to guard my peers and I then it falls on the people designated to protect us to act. If we were more organized in those days I expect things would be different. If I had an adult nearby something would have caught their attention. Instead we've classically been a horde of barely managed angst teens who come and go and don't learn our lessons. We lack responsibility. We lack accountability. But now more clear than ever we lack humanity.
Begone with the bureaucracy and the legalese. Begone with the soullessness. Shoot the shot. If you can't be this shield then let someone else. We knew about all of these people well beforehand and allowing them a place here allows them more opportunities to ruin us. I was ruined and I'm still climbing out of that pit. No one deserves this pain. Act. Please, my friends. For us.